Selfish or not?

Its not being selfish to elope on your own. Its becoming common as some couples feel they don't need to have a huge budget to spend for one day celebration. I know my in laws got married August in Nova Scotia and held a small reception months after in November. This may be good to do as you both can have less to do for a reception on a low budget.

I don't think it's selfish at all. I think it's actually a little selfish for others to feel entitled to be at your wedding. Yeah, if my sisters decided to elope, I'd be a little disappointed that I couldn't be there to witness it, but at the end of the day a wedding is about THE COUPLE. Celebrating with family when you get home is 100% enough.

I'm gonna agree with Tori for a quick minute and say it's a little selfish - my dad and I had an emotional moment where he admitted to bringing me to our venue as a baby (him and my mom used to work there) and always imagined walking me down the aisle. Sometimes our parents imagine being with us at all our special occasions since birth.

However, you also do what's right for you and your FH. Since you are celebrating with family later, they aren't being left out as much and even if they are sad to miss out on the ceremony, they'll no doubt be happy for you.

So you're not wrongfully selfish, just a little rightfully so! And that's definitely ok!

Noooo not at all!!! weddings are super stressful and everyone in families seem to want to chime in and tell you what to do. and its expensive. we had a budget and we went way over

As much as I want to say it isn't... my sister wants to do the same thing so this is how I feel:

She doesn't want a big wedding like mine (200ish people), she doesn't want a small wedding of like 100 people, and all is fine with that. Where she loses me and makes me sad - is that I want to be with her on what would be one of the biggest days of her lives. She was my MOH, and although I don't care about labels, I would love nothing more than to just be there when she gets married even if it's just to witness it and not sign AS a witness.

I don't have kids yet, but when I do I know that I can picture myself dancing with my Son for the Mother/Son dance at his wedding and maybe if it's your parents that are disappointed then maybe it is because they have had over 18 years to picture that moment for a Father walking his Daughter down the aisle or for the moment that their baby is officially not in their hands (figuratively speaking of course).

At the end of the day it is up to you, but if I was a parent or sibling I would be upset by it too. If you plan on getting married just the two of you then perhaps you could still include your families with picking out your dress, planning the reception back at home, and maybe even get a videographer to capture the vows to then show at the reception when you are back?

No way!! I love this idea and I think having the ceremony just the two of you is super sweet and super romantic!

Not selfish at all!
When it comes down to it your wedding is about the two of you and whoever you want to have there. If you want to share that with the world great, if you want it to be private also great!
Plus if you celebrate after with friends and family then those people still get some of the wedding traditions. It's a wonderful best of both worlds idea.

I don’t think it’s selfish at all! Wedding planning can be really difficult and stressful it’s easy to see why anyone would want to elope.


If this is something you’re interested in definitely bring it up to your fiancé!