Second Time Brides - Bad Vibes from Family??

I cannot imagine not being happy and excited for someone at such an important time in their life. People really suck! I wouldn't want anyone at our wedding who wasn't supportive and happy for us, and if they did this I would count it as their loss.
I hope that all of us can support you and try to make up for any less than enthusiastic people in your life.

View quoted message Oh gosh, it sounds like you know EXACTLY what im feeling. I just wish someone could pretend to be interested, you know? I’m here too, if you ever need to PM. We’re not alone!

Omgggg im so sorry about your family!! this is horrible to hear. if it makes you feel any better this is my third engagement (two previous i called off however we hadnt set a date or did anything) and when i told my mom i was engaged all she said was "oh" ive never set a wedding date ever until now and it seems no one gives a crap. my mom hasnt offered help or done anything. even when i visit she doesnt ask about planning or how were doing or anything and this is both of our first wedding. sorry to hear. i feel the same way. all my cousins are already married and everyone my age is married theyre all mostly having their second kids so no one even talks about weddings or asks about mine all they talk about is kids - so i completely understand you. im here if you need to PM me.

This was our second wedding as well. We had some that were less than enthusiastic, but most were so ecstatic, and that's what we focussed on. We had a small guest list and had the day that we wanted - wouldn't change a thing.

"Those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind."

View quoted message Focus on the ones who are excited for you. I know it's totally harder than it seems

Sadly I felt just as tossed to the side and this is my first time around getting married... Not sure what it was with my family but most of them did not make an effort to attend.. Really lets you know who is the family you should surround yourself with. Also not going to lie, having some of them not care or not try and make it made me cry a couple times but at the end of the day they aren't worth it. If they can't be there for you right now at a good time... I like the saying "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" - but this is one of the best times of your life and if they aren't there for that.... then I'm not sure what they would be there for... Sorry you're going through this, but it's best to cut out the negativity right from the start. If anything I would just say to have a heart to heart with those who aren't happy for you that you were close to like you uncle. Try and explain just how much him not caring or attending hurts you. If he has nothing to say to that... well... It's going to suck, but you don't need him.

View quoted message You’re right! We will be grateful for this who do want to be there, and it will mean a lot to us that they came. Thank you

View quoted message Thank you! I guess I know that, maybe it’s just me expecting too much out of them. FH and I are super excited and I need to remind myself that’s all that matters!

I'm sorry you are going through this. I'm getting married for the second time (my family didn't approve of first marriage) so they are excited for me this time. I think any wedding is going to have those who put a damper on your happiness. Don't let them get to you. This marriage is important, your relationship is important and should be celebrated.

The excitement of your second marriage doesn't feel the same as your fist. It is disappointing to hear the bad thoughts and family members not attending your day die to their plans.
The idea of you planning all the day expenses as a couple and not with your family makes it tough. Its disappointing to not have their support wanting when you need it. Still be greatful for those guests that will show up and continue without thinking twice about the bad things and thoughts.