Seating arrangements, who to put where and why?

In your situation, I'd think about planning some kind of get to know your table activity. Even as simple as, find someone at your table that likes dogs.
I'm not to worried about people not being civil to each other. But, I don't want the night to be ruined because of to much tension.

I'm only doing a rough arrangement right now. But I love the idea of putting them with ppl they wud have something in common with. Thanks for that!

I definitely agree with Valerie to wait until you get the RSVPs. We ended up with WAY less people than we were expecting (even some people who were 100% coming ended up having to decline ) so we ended up with less tables than expected. You can start making some notes now but don't stress too much! And if you do have a few couples that don't "fit" at a table, try to place them with people who would have something in common with them or who would be friendly and welcome them. One of my husband's friends did not know anyone else other than us so we put him at a table with some friends we volunteer with and they totally adopted him haha! Maybe talk to your parents and MOH or BM to get a second opinion too? There was one couple we were struggling with and my mom was like "oh put them with these people because they have this in common" Perfect!

Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. It's so difficult when people don't get along. For me it's just not wanting ppl to feel awkward at a table full of ppl they don't know. Your situation is definitely worse. I think as the bride u should put ur foot down with all of them. As adults they shud be putting their differences aside for YOUR wedding. This day isn't about them and their issues, it's about u. Have u spoken to them about how uncomfortable they're making this experience for u?

I'm very worried about making seating arrangements. My parents had a very brutal divorce, so the families are a bit hostile towards each other. My mom is remarried, and my dad doesn't like my step family either. Too top it off, my fiance's family, my mom and my step dad have a very awkward relationship. I'm very tempted to rent three different room in the same building and separate them.

AH fair enough! Darn!

It's not so much a stress of pressure, I just hate if people feel awkward.

I can definitely relate to the seperating certian people for drama purposes.

I kind of have to max out the tables as the hall isn't very large, it's more long so the more tables we have the less of a dance floor there will be.

I'm going to draw it out on bristle board and work different ideas out.

You're still so far out, I wouldn't stress about it too much. You never know who won't be able to make it after you get RSVP's back. I've been playing around with mine since I made the guest list (because all of the family drama I wanted to plan out keeping them separated to avoid issues as much as I can), but I'm not stressing about the specifics until I get back RSVP's.

Also, if you can I wouldn't max out the tables unless you have to! Personally I have 8 per table, even though the max in 10 per. No one wants to be so cramped together, so this way people can eat and talk more comfortably but if I need to add in an extra person or 2 to a table, I can do it with ease.

It's tedious and a bit annoying, but try not to stress too much about it now, there are so many variables that could change

omg if I was given the option of redoing the seating arrangement 100 times and not having to pay count me in!

I have to say i've been fairly lucky with finding a lot of good deals and splurging on very few things....I never want to have to do this again lmao

I always enjoy helping others when I can!!! The seating arrangement so far has been my least favourite thing while wedding planning... aside from forking out the money for it!

I feel like I lack the patience for all these small time consuming things too - and the guilt is annoying lol but yea I try telling myself the same thing. I think I'm going to get a big board and play around with it so I can see it on a larger scale too.

I hope you don't go crazy with your seating arrangements too! lol - I greatly appreciate your input

I know what you mean about trying to place certain people in certain spots! I have done about 10 different seating arrangements on paper and on here to see how things look and if there is something I can do better! Everyone tells me that it will continue to change right up until the day of though because people might have to decline the invitation or whatever else might happen! But guests have to realize that you can't please everyone and they will have to just accept where they are sititng! My FH and I just went to a wedding in August and we were placed at a table with 2 other couples and then one of the cousins of either the groom or bride and everyone we knew were at two other tables! But when there was dancing and everything we got up and could mingle so it was really only the dinner portion that was a bit awkward but we got to know the people at our table as my FH likes to mingle and then it wasn't as bad!