Save the dates??

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Yah, I took notes as to who’s in the same household when I was trying to figure out how many to budget for. I did that first round when taking notes lol then I clicked! I’m glad I love planning, I take everything down in a notebook by hand before I decide anything, I find it helps me catch certain things like that and it gives me a souvenir from my wedding planning for my futur self to look back on lol I’m corny that way!!

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LMAO! Finally someone said it! I thought I was alone, STD is a horrible acronym for the save the dates but it is what it is I guess. I’ve giggling to myself when I read the messages

I think I’ll go with that, simple for the STD’s and then make two invites (reception) and (ceremony/reception)

All of our guests are going to both the ceremony and reception. But I did accidentally print too many. I printed enough for every guess and realized later that I didn't need to because some of our guests live in the same house. So that's something to think about as well.

I kept my S.T.D.'s (what a horrible acronym) basic and simple with no info. They're getting sent to everyone and the invites will distinguish the difference.

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Hahaha that’s true, he knows what he doesn’t want too! The only thing he definitely says he wants is the poutine late night meal, besides that he doesn’t care about the rest as long as I’m happy lol

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I totally get that! My FH is the same way - except when it comes to things that he doesn't like. He has no problem giving an opinion when it's that he doesn't like something and yet when I ask what he want's instead all I get is "I don't know - just not that"... Like really??

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That is great!! So helpful thank you so much, I love wedding wire for this. I ask my FH for input on this stuff he goes “I don’t know” or “whatever you want babe” not really helpful! Lol I love that he supports whatever I do but he isn’t helping me make decisions much!

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Exactly.

For people coming to the whole wedding (ceremony + reception) it will look like a normal STD+invitation

For people coming to just the reception it will look like a normal STD+a reception only invitation like this:

or like this:

but with this I would just of course have it say "will be married in a private ceremony" "Please join them at the celebratory reception directly following, on March 14th 2020"

Something like that

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Okay, sp save the dates for everyone the same and would I be sending out invitations for just the reception to some and invitations for the ceremony and reception for the others? Right?

I would think a simple save the date with no info about the wedding is all you need. No need to go into detail as to what people are invited to until the actual invitation. For example - my wedding will be a no kids wedding and although I skipped on the STD's when I was going to send them I wasn't going to let people know that until the invitation.

View quoted message That is such useful information thank you! I wanted to do them in june-july but I originally wanted to do end April early May but I was being told I was early. But they're not considering March break and also I wanna send the invitations in October November so it's before Christmas
I don't feel too early now! It's just save the dates anyway!

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View quoted message Both my parents and FMIL work with the school board. They usually book their March break trips in June-July the year prior. So if you’re sending them soon you’ll be ahead of the game!!

I just received a STD for my cousins wedding recently and nothing mentioning about what we are invited to. It would be nice to read Invitation to follow with details. This way we would know if we would be invited to the wedding and reception or just the reception. Just a suggestion to save that much more time than sending out 2 different cards ahead of time.

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Perfect, I feel much better now! Thanks for the help

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That's exactly what you should do!

For the ones invited to ceremony + reception it can go like:

"Please join us to celebrate the wedding of Alycia and Fiance

Ceremony at 2 followed by reception at 5"

While for the ones who are reception only:

"Please join us to celebrate the wedding of Alycia and Fiance

Reception at 5"

My cousin did a reception-only celebration for their wedding (ceremony was months prior), and I wish I could remember the exact wording of it since it was just simple and to the point.

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That was my plan for the invitations too. I’m just so confused about the rules of these save the dates lol. I don’t have a lot of them who wont be invited to everything.

View quoted message I plan on sending out invitations 6 months before the wedding, one set for those who will be invited to the whole thing, and a reception only invitation to the others

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That’s a really great idea, I plan on having the ceremony and reception in the same location. So should I be clearly starting somewhere for the “Recepction cocktail hour” and “Ceremony, dinner and cocktail’’?

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Okay, see this was what I had at the back of my mind. I’m afraid to of offending someone if they get a save the date but no invite.

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Good point, my date is around March break so I wanna do it ASAP in case I got any easily birds booking vacations

I think you need to create TWO DIFFERENT Save The Dates - one for those invited to everything, and one for those invited to only the reception. That way each person receiving their Save The Date is getting only the information necessary to them

I have a two guest lists - one for ceremony, dinner and reception, and one for just reception. I’m planning on only sending out save the dates to those who will be invited to the whole thing. i figure it could get a bit awkward if i were to send save the dates to everyone, as they might assume they’re invited to the whole thing and then be offended when they’re not

I sent save the dates to each household that I actually want to be at our wedding, especially if they are older and want them to save that date ahead of time.

I had planned on one per household, I might do magnets, but we’re not sure yet still early. I will send the save the dates to all and send invites to the ceremony. I’m going to do electronic invites for those I’m inviting to the party

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I think this is a great idea - one per household.

We did electronic save the dates so that's kind of what we did as well.

I did one save the date per household to save on costs. Mine are magnets so I didn’t feel like each house needed multiple on their fridge lol.
Most of the time people who are invited to the ceremony are also invited to the reception. So it would just depend who you are inviting.
But you can always send save the dates to everyone and then send different invites after ( one for reception only and one for both )