Rsvp right away? Or wait closer to the rsvp date?

We are currently 15 days from our RSVP deadline and so far we have RSVPs from 20/61 guests. We plan on following up 1 week before the deadline.

View quoted message Oh yes, definitely good to make sure that is set for you. Or cut them off. Hahaha. Jk

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Yeah come april 10 I will for sure... since were buying the food I need the numbers this soon (wedding is june 10)

View quoted message Oh yeah. Don’t hesitate at all to checkup on them and let them know. I made sure I do so, since we had seated dinners. Let them know we need numbers for the food choices.

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No kidding! Im still missing a few haha 10 more days till the RSVP date tho!

View quoted message Yeah, some people like to take longer than they need to. To get a response. Hahahaa


Ah yes, that’s a great idea. Keep everyone in the loop to get everything sorted out and all the information in one place.

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Yeah I have about 30/55 RSVP already. the rest have not. I may end up just messaging everyone or making a facebook group message to do the details as I don't think any of them will continue to check the website once they RSVP (we are supplying a certain amount of boos and then also BYOB, the theme etc)

Aw that's too bad, I have a feeling that will be some people. I have only invited a couple family from both sides to represent the side of the family and I think that might of started some stuff but I wanted less than 50 people and i'm almost at 60.

My cousin just asked if her baby is invited (it was supposed to be no kids as there's only a few people who have kids & I dont have the seating for them but I feel a baby is in a different category? lol

I would say half an half for RSVP. You will have guests that will reply much sooner than those who do wait and realize they haven't done so yet and have to get you an answer.

A good way to let your guests know to RSVP (those that haven't yet) is by sending them a reminder by email of the deadline. Sad to say my eldest brother never did for his family and SIL only asked a week before the wedding if she could come and leave the kids out of it. Heartbreaking as it was, some things with them haven't changed even now.

View quoted message It was alittle sad and hurt my feelings a bit... but ill get over it haha I know people rsvp closer to the date so once April 10th comes around I'll send a message to remind people just say yes or no for numbers.. I thought people would of done it sooner tho!


What you did was a super smart idea! I also think I should or put in the invite to check the website for updates... might end up making a Facebook page/chat for it as we have little updates (BYOB, places to stay, cowboy boots etc) Haha 😄 😅

View quoted message Ahhhhhhhh okay. Yeah; that would definitely be sad.
I think what worked for me is that I did e-invites. I sent them personally by text messages/Whatapp. Haha. Then I also sent them the website to remind them to check it for updates.

My message was something like:“Please see attached the updated invitation and keep an eye out on our website for any latest update. website link…”
But definitely do some checkup, it’s okay to do so. I did a lot of it. Haha

Most people wait until closer to the end…. And some ultimately forget. Also keep in mind that not everyone is off on weekends, so for some it may take a few weeks to actually secure the time off for the wedding. Don’t stress. Just keep track as they come in so you will know on the deadline who you need to follow up with.

View quoted message Thanks for the info! We have the rsvp date April 10th as my family needs numbers for the amount of food and figured month is a good amount of time to get all the food together. (Wedding June 11)
I have 29/52 rsvp already but I worry Some people just didn't even look at the invite... when i saw a couple invited last week she mentuoned "I forgot your rsvp card" and I thought to myself... that they clearly didn't look at the invite as the rsvp is rsvp by this website (wedding wire website) so it made me sort of sad 😢

Hello Hailey,
Don’t ever hesitate to checkin with them as well. I had to check in with my guests since we had to confirm the total of meals and choices from two options. Depends on how close you are to your date, you check definitely checkin and request that they RSVP as soon as possible.

I think I had almost all of my RSVP in plenty of time but I still had some I had to chase down....then we postponed

View quoted message Oh i didnt know you could do that. Didn't know what list A and B meant. Thank you.
Im very anxious and its driving me crazy not to be in control, but this will defitnitly help!

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Did you make an A list and B list? That way if anyone in the A list decline, you can move to the B list.

Im going crazy with this. My side everyone has rsvp. But my FH side barely anyone did. Its driving me mad. Cos i need 60 ppl for my hall and if they don't come i need to find more ppl to invite so it's stressing me out big time

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I know, its hard right?! I want to go in and RSVP for a bunch of people I KNOW are coming but I also know the excitement of going on the site to do it your self, as well.

View quoted message I'm hoping so, I have 20/56 people rsvp already so I assume so... most are family

View quoted message Thank you for responding I'm definitely going to try not to worry..

View quoted message I figured, I definitely might do that as a part of me worries a bit... I guess I just assumed you would respond right away?

View quoted message I have a bunch of family already rsvp... and I know there's alot of friends excited however they haven't rsvp yet lol I guess I'll just relax a bit.. haha

I think I am lucky, as alot of our friends and family are equally excited about this day so we already have 15 people RSVP'd lol however, I know alot of people have received their STD but have not RSVP'd. But tbf, I just made a little card that said formal invites were coming but if they wanted to RSVP, I provided a QR code, so I assume most people are waiting for the formal. I still have lots of time to get my numbers in so I'm not too stressed.

And if I remember correctly, my bestie was chasing RSVP up until a few weeks before her wedding lol and she was married pre-covid

People always RSVP for things closer to the deadline. I wouldn't stress over it. Try not to log in and check so often if it gives you anxiety.

I would not stress about it. This is totally normal and even more so with covid that people will wait.

I think most people will be closer to the date just because with everything with covid right now maybe I wouldn't stress too much right now

Weve been handing out our invites over the last couple weeks for local guests and mailed out the rest a couple weeks ago. So far we've had 3 guests RSVP. I imagine most people are waiting till closer to the deadline