Everyone is trying to invite their sister's hamster's uncle's mechanic as their plus one, asking to "keep me posted" weeks after the RSVP-by date, swapping out their addressed invitations to their spouse for their young kid, RSVPing for two when they dont have a date. I have a guestlist of 25 people and did not expect the total shitstorm that is going on right now. I'm wishing we kept it to family only and called it a day because I'm so frustrated right now.
We have 45 guest and only the couples have a plus one. My bridesmaid (and best friend) is bringing her boyfriend, but asked me twice if she could bring her teenage daughter to🤦🏾♀️I said no! I cut some of my own family, she can't bring hers. I think some people can't grasp the financial weight of a wedding till they are going through it. I know I didn't.
So true to just family being present for the day and the ones asking for plus ones for guest replacement not cool if they feel someone else than the name written can't attend. You can say count is limited and so are the seats. Its hard enough to just confirm with asking to bring someone else coming and those with no guests shouldn't even ask at all. Just let them know if they there is someone else other than the other guest to notify you.
Ahhh, that is so frustrating and stressful. I can't even imagine. I don't get how people can think they can just "swap" people for others. Like it doesn't work that way!!! Also, with respect to the plus one situation- also very frustrating. Like it just baffles me how people can just think they automatically get a plus one. I'm sorry you are going through this, and I really hope this works out. All the best to you!
I hear that! I go so many "can I bring my" ..like no, the invitation is only addressed to you and does not indicate a plus 1, just simply let them know that your wedding is small and intimate and the invitation only covers them. If they are not happy about that, they can opt out. Probably for the best.
Number 1: this is hilarious lol "invite their sister's hamster's uncle's mechanic" but truthfully I am so sorry this has become such a headache, sounds like some of your guests are being pretty inconsiderate. I agree with Jacquie about kind of putting your foot down and giving them a by this date or else you will make the assumption they are not coming - unfortunately sometimes people need that.
We are having a small gathering as well about 23 people and invites when out to married couples of course but any one who was single and/or has not been in a long term relationship did NOT get a plus one, and I did not feel bad about it but mind you many of our guests are family so I feel like that was a little easier too - not a lot of outside people.