rsvp Dates Past Due-no Response

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Wow, the audacity of people! I'm glad you marked them as "no" and I hope they don't show up. People need to know that they have to either commit or not bother.

View quoted message Yah we messaged the guests but it wasnt any help. Most of them still gave us a "im not sure" so i marked them as a no and spoke with my MOG and my parents and they said they would speak to the guests that show up anyways. Hopefully it wont happen but i guess ill have to wait and see.

Hey, did you end up figuring out your RSVPs? I hope everything worked out and people started responding more!

We contacted everyone once after the deadline. Then to anyone who still hadn’t replied, we sent a “we’ll miss you but check out our website for pictures after” type of email.

Once we mail ours out, We will reach out a week before the deadline to anyone who hasn't responded. If there's no response by our RSVP date, then we'll assume they are not attending and mark them "Declined". I'm not chasing people around lol I won't have time to by then 🤣🤣

I would definitely contact them. If it's family, get your fiancés family (parents) to reach out and to explain that the deadline is coming up and they wanted to confirm attendance as your caterer needs to know the final numbers. I'm sure your guests will understand and it will also allude to the fact that if they don't respond, there won't be a seat available for them. That will help deter any gate crashers.

You should definitely contact them. Maybe he can get some help from other family members to ask around. We had the same idea about some of our family as they had to come all the way from Europe, but surprisingly they are all coming. So I'd definitely make sure to know what they're doing even if it's gonna be tedious. That's a lot of people indeed

I would definitely contact those who've passed your deadline, you might assume that they declined, but they could still show up.

I will put your mind at ease to talk to them and get a definite answer.

Our deadline is coming up next Friday. We plan to contact everyone who hasn't sent their RSVP tomorrow, even if we feel they will not be attending, and again the day of. Definitely contact ad much as you can, it will at least put your mind at ease.

My fiance and I sent out reminders the day of our deadline to anyone that hadn't responded and then two weeks later we said that if we hadn't heard from them within the following 2 weeks (one month after the initial deadline) then we would assume them to be a no and mark them as declined. Everyone responded after that.

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Your FH should be reaching out to the people on his side that have not responded - unless you are comfortable doing it. Also, I would let your future mother in law know and ask for help.
Some people just need a friendly reminder - I have done this on certain occasions myself.
For my RSVP's we gave our guests over a month before the wedding to respond, if I am missing someone by the last week of the RSVP deadline then I will call... I will give people an additional week after, but after that I will be putting them as a No.

View quoted message O wow. thank you for the advice Congrats on your wedding coming up soon.

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View quoted message Great idea! Maybe your in-laws can call the family to find out!

Is it family or friends who more haven't responded? I have kind of broken up our list between a few different people so myself and my FH are in charge or following up with a certain group and then his parents are following up with another group and my parents are following up with their own group!

Splitting it up has helped huge!

This can get so frustrating! We didn’t reach out to people. lol. I figured if you wanted to come, you would have sent your RSVP. We are getting married in a week. In the past 2 weeks we have had 4 people decide to come, although they never sent in their RSVP. That means my seating arrangements needed to be redone, and I needed to change the order with the hotel. I strongly suggest you reach out. You would be surprised how many people are willing to travel. We are getting married in Alberta and we have people coming from BC, Yellow knife and a few from Ontario. Just leave a message saying that they have until a certain date, then you’ll have to mark them as a No. good luck!