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Newbie March 2021 Alberta

Replanning our wedding.

Laura, on May 6, 2020 at 17:24 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 10
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Long story short - we had to cancel our March wedding and are hoping to get married this September. Should I hire a wedding planner instead of trying to plan this wedding on my own? I have most of my vendors, but need a venue.


Long story: My fiance and I were supposed to get married March 28. 10 days before our wedding we got the phone call from out vendor that they were closing their doors and we would not be able to have our wedding there. After a few days of scrambling trying to find another venue and keep our wedding date, we gave up and realised that this pandemic meant we'd have to postpone things.It's now been over a month and we have definitely come to terms with everything, but it's still heartbreaking - especially as I try to replan everything.I spent a year planning this spring wedding for 80 guests and to have a day for my finance and I to be with our family and friends (he is currently living in a different city than me, so this day was a lot for us). We have agreed that we would like to get married in September (that's the next time he has a break from his schooling) in whatever form that looks like. Whether it's all out guests or just a portion of them.I've been able to keep most of our vendors, except our venue. I'm trying to find a new one, but of course it's hard with most places being closed or unsure of what things will look like in 5 months.
I had not originally hired a wedding planner, as we were trying to keep costs on the lower side. But I'm exhausted and don't know if I can plan another wedding. I'm having such a hard time letting go of this day I planned and worked so hard for, for so long. Does it makes sense just to hire someone to find me a venue?

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Latest activity by Laura, on May 19, 2020 at 13:07
  • L
    Newbie March 2021 Alberta
    Laura ·
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    Thank you all for your help! We made the decision to postpone until next year. We unfortunately have to deal with some other major issues that have arisen due to the pandemic, and just cannot put our hearts into planning a wedding the way we want to right now. Bittersweet - but this way we can have the wedding we planned for (granted the pandemic is under control...)


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  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
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    Omggg im so sorry to hear this. can your fiance help instead? or you mom or your BMs?? you can also find cheaper wedding planners on kijiji doesnt have to be a super expensive one if you have a lot of your vendors already booked.

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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    If that's the case, I say skip the planner and get a month of coordinator. While the planning process may be frustrating for you, at the end of the day the venue is something you want to see with your own eyeballs as opposed to someone else's perspective.

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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Hopefully soon you can start looking into venues to book the date and keep your vendor team known for sure to put for you. Its hard and exhausted to put the amount of work for what you have accomplished. One big peice is all you need to complete your plan.
    Get married the day you two have chosen this year going ahead with a anniversary reception held next year celebrating with your loved ones.
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  • L
    Newbie March 2021 Alberta
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    All my vendors are available except for the venue.
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  • Hank
    Featured September 2021 Ontario
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    Have all your originally booked vendors confirmed that your new September date is a go? If not, then maybe you can justify the planner, who can execute with this own circle of vendors at preferred rates.

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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    If you've made the guest list that small, you can probably look at less traditional venues for a ceremony and reception.


    I know calling and emailing is a big job, can any of your wedding party or family help divide the task? With a smaller group of guests you could look into restaurants, theatre companies (rehearsal spaces, performance venues, dance studios), and maybe even air b&bs. If you have people who might be able to help you should reach out and let them take on some of the stress so you don't burn yourself out. I don't think you need a planner if you have people!
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  • L
    Newbie March 2021 Alberta
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    The plan right now is to have a small ceremony with our family and then have the reception next spring. I still want the day to feel like a wedding and a celebration - so we would like to at least have our parents and close friends attend (under 20 people).

    I agree, I don't want to pay $2000 just for someone to find a venue, but at the same time, I just can't bring myself to do anymore planning, thinking or organizing.


    Thank you!

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  • Laura
    Devoted June 2022 Ontario
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    I’m not sure where you are- but I have read some planners offer consultation hours, without having to hire them for the entirety of your wedding. Perhaps they could help and it would only cost you the hours they work to find you a venue?
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  • K
    Devoted August 2021 Nova Scotia
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    Hey Laura, I’m so sorry you had to postpone. Many of us are in the same boat and it’s brutally disappointing. Have you thought about getting legally married in September and delaying the reception until next year? That way you could avoid the headache of having to potentially postpone a second time or scale down your event in the eleventh hour. This is obviously an evolving situation but September does still look a little dicey. It would also give you some time to breathe and find a venue on your own terms / avoid paying for a planner. Just a thought. I recognize this idea doesn’t appeal to everyone.


    Personally I don’t think I could justify paying a planner to complete one task, but that’s just me! If it’s in your budget or you find somebody who is willing to tailor their package to your specific needs, perhaps you should go for it! Do what feels right to you. It might be nice to have someone in your corner if things are still a little chaotic in September / last minute changes prove to be necessary.
    Anyway - good luck and eyes on the prize! You will have a beautiful wedding regardless Smiley smile


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