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Stefanie
Devoted August 2021 Saskatchewan

Postponing but still getting married on our day

Stefanie, on April 24, 2020 at 10:32 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 10
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So we made the decision last night that with the looks on things being the earliest of mid July likely for everything to be lifted here and our wedding is for August 8 that it would be best to postpone. With restrictions we wouldn't be able to go ahead with a shower or stag/stagette even. However we are 99% sure we are still going to get married on our date this year with our immediate family, especially because my fiances grandparents because they are getting up in age and it means so much to his grandma to get to see one one of her grandchildren get married. Then next year in August we plan to have a big ceremony and reception with all our friends and family. With the fun events of a shower, stag and stagette before hand.



Is anyone else doing it this way? How are you feeling about it? I am having some mixed emotions on whether that seems silly to do or not and if we should just fully postpone. And I also cannot decide if I want to wear my dress twice or wear something different this year. Thanks!

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Latest activity by Ashley, on May 4, 2020 at 21:36
  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
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    Were aug 8 as well and we have no idea what to do. i would feel so sad not having all my family and friends at the ceremony... were back and forth about what to do

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  • Jessica
    Newbie September 2021 Alberta
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    I’m in the same boat, August 2020 wedding with the grooms family flying in from Ontario. We decided to postpone and are waiting to hear back from the venue.
    We just want to be married! Everyone except my mother in law is supportive of us getting Legally married on our original date in our backyard. She says she wants us to postpone the whole thing so she can hug her son on his wedding day. My fiancé told her that we are getting married no matter what she changed her tune.
    I know it’ll be far from perfect, but it’ll be a great day spent with my 15 favourite people. And we’ll have the big day later, so we’re confident in our choice.
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  • M
    Frequent user August 2020 Ontario
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    A lot of people kept telling me, "This is going to be over really soon, August is so far away" etc. *Sigh. I understand - we experienced so many days where we needed to just call our best friends for support.


    I've been browsing Etsy. I'm just looking at chiffon gowns in a lot of colors - the word "wedding" always seems to cost so much more lol.
    Sending you a hug!
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  • Stefanie
    Devoted August 2021 Saskatchewan
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    I agree!!! Definitely a wave of emotions. I woke up this morning and instantly felt in shock and cried lol. As the day has gone I am feeling better and better about the decision.


    I am starting to lean towards a different dress for this year and keeping my Beautiful gown for next year. Where are you looking at getting a different dress for about $250?
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  • Amelia
    Master October 2020 New Brunswick
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    This is our tentative plan too. We will elope on our date and celebrate on our first anniversary. We talked about having the party the day before our anniversary so we can have a new years style countdown to our anniversary at midnight!


    My biggest problem is that there's a strong likely hood that FH's family won't be able to enter the country, so to me it's only fair if we have no guests or family and we will renew our vows next year in a symbolic ceremony. I haven't mentioned this to my family because I don't want to upset them unnecessarily.
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  • Alison
    Frequent user August 2022 Ontario
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    This is exactly what we are planning to do. We are thinking of doing a small ceremony on August 29th this year (our original date), and then doing the whole ceremony & reception August 28, 2021. I do have some mixed feelings about it: I want to take my fiance’s last name...do I do it right away? Do we care that people know we’re already legally married, or do we keep it to ourselves? I really want the whole experience of having my dad walk me down the aisle. But I don’t know if that’s weird considering we will already technically be married. We’ve thrown around the idea of calling it a Vow Renewal next year too. I don’t know what we’ll end up doing!


    In terms of my dress, I haven’t had it altered yet so will likely save it for next year and find something else less formal to wear this year. I’m really hoping I still like it by next year! 😂
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  • M
    Frequent user August 2020 Ontario
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    We postponed to June 2021 (our wedding was also scheduled for this August). We would still like to wed on our original August date but it will likely just be us, our officient, and our two witnesses. I'm saving my wedding dress (it has to he altered) and purchasing another gown (plan to spend about $220) to wear.


    It was a whole mix of emotions - disbelief, anger, grief, and so on - but now we have accepted it. We just hope all will go according to plan for June 2021.
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  • K
    Devoted August 2021 Nova Scotia
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    I'm so sorry your celebration isn't happening as planned! 2020 brides and grooms are definitely getting a raw deal. For what it's worth, I don't think your new plan (a smaller ceremony on your original date paired with a larger celebration next year) is silly at all. Quite the opposite, actually. From what I've gathered it's a pretty popular course of action. A lot of couples understandably still want to get married this year, for any number of reasons. They may want to ensure an ailing or elderly family member can be present, postponing may interfere with family planning goals or their plans to move in together, etc. Or they may just be eager to get married! At the end of the day, it's not a decision that you and your fiance, nor any other couple, have to justify to anyone else. It also doesn't mean you can't have the full experience at a later date when the law and realities of public health allow for it. If I were one of your guests, I would just be thrilled to attend the party and related festivities next year and would absolutely not fault or judge you for having made it legal ahead of time.

    Good luck!

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  • Britt
    Frequent user July 2020 Alberta
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    I'm doing it this way. My wedding is July 18. Just gonna have a nice simple backyard ceremony, order some take out (more than likely our meal we had planned). We will hold off our reception probably 2yrs, then have another vow renewal/reception on our anniversary, & go all out. I plan to wear my dress twice, nice excuse to wear it again. Our original guest list was 120
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Postponing the wedding is a smart move to securely knowing your guests will make it next year for the wedding. The dress itself can be worn that day instead of this year so you can go casual if needed to dress down.

    Its nice to have FH grandmother present to see her grandson get married legally. There are a lot of mixed emotions for lots of brides due to the crisis occurring this year. Your doing the right thing and that's the most important thing you two have decided.

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