Planning sadness?

View quoted message I am having the same issue, too many people want to give me their opinions and advice and I don't necessarily want it

I have definitely had my moments! (Thank goodness for the WW community!!)
I was back on track and then my MOH came out to visit/dress shop for both of us/plan. She is *very* excited and enthusiastic but, let’s just say her vision for my wedding and my vision are not even remotely the same. I now have to temper her enthusiasm a little. I kind of miss my little two-person planning bubble of my fiancé and I.

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I'm glad someone else gets it!! I've taken a break from planning my wedding (WW community doesn't count lol) since I wanted to have a life outside it again!

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THIS!!!!

I honestly thought I was alone. I've started "shutting down" when people bring up the wedding. I'm super excited about it, but that doesn't mean it's all I want to talk about. It's not because I'm in the middle of planning that : I need advice, opinions, your friends' cousins' business card, etc.

That being said, I agree with Tori that most people (who aren't involved in the planning) will get more excited closer to the date (after receiving the invitation), because it'll signal that the countdown is on!

Who needs external friends when you have your Wedding Wire pals?!? (Joking not joking)

Seriously though - I understand that it can be frustrating when the people you count on can’t get on board with your excitement. Which is why it’s soooo important that the ones who matter most are you and your SO..

...and us bc we’re here and we get it, and we will TOTALLY get excited with you, when no one else will.💜

I felt the same way until a week ago. I told my mom I felt like I was the only one who was excited and that I didn’t even want to have a wedding if nobody cared. She said she felt bad because she was never married and didn’t know how to plan a wedding so she felt useless. Since then she has been trying to talk about it more and making sure it feels more special. My grandma didn’t want to discuss it because she was worried I would be insulted. My fiancé’s family didn’t want to ruin the fun for my family since it was the first wedding in a very long time for us.

Dont worry! People are excited. You just need to tell them how you feel

I totally understand how you're feeling. I found myself wanting more excitement from people and just not receiving it. I find that the more I plan and the closer things get, I start to think less and less about what others are feeling. I'm excited and my FH is excited, and that's all that matters.

Just enjoy it as much as you can and try not to take peoples lack of excitement personally.

I 100% get where you are coming from. It is both of our first weddings.

My parents are super excited and have been there every step of the planning, but honestly, besides them, no one else has even mentioned the wedding.

We have been engaged for almost a year and I think the wedding has come up maybe a handful of times. I am kind of hoping that as we are getting closer, people start getting more excited!

I feel like I have the opposite problem - people are too stoked about our wedding and it comes with lots of unwanted opinions, questions I don't have the answers to, and it's all people want to talk about with me. Don't get me wrong, I love talking about my wedding, but I do have a life outside of it.

I feel like there needs to be a balance of excitement, too much is overwhelming and too little can make you feel sad. As long as you and your FH can feel excited about it, that's all that really matters.

Like Tori mentioned, maybe people will be more excited closer to the date once invitations are sent out. Some people might just not be stoked on weddings either.

I mean, our families are happy for us but we have been engaged for over a year now so not much is exciting as we already got my dress and have the venue, food, dj, etc. figured out.

Maybe they are waiting for a milestone like the invitations to be sent and then they will get a wave of excitement?

As long as the two of you get giddy when just thinking about your wedding and getting married to one another that's all that matters anyway. I do get what you mean though, it's always nice when you mention you are getting married or having a shower and the person is like "oh ya!!! I still can't believe it!!" but not everybody is like that. I mean, if somebody shows me a picture of their baby - I couldn't care less... like good for you? It's just not my cup of tea (this example is probably because my Mom had a home daycare for 15 years of my life and I am so over other people's kids).