Just breathe! And remember... it's never going to be perfect, but it will be perfect for you! It's the first day of your life together with the person you love.
It took me 5 years of secretly/not-so-secretly scouring wedding websites & magazines before even getting engaged to start to learn what I liked and didn't like... I'm now just over 3 months into the engagement, and I'm just narrowing down my focus to details and decisions.
Starting big, and making sure you ask yourself why you do or don't like something will help starting to guide you in the right direction.
Also, setting a budget should be your first step, because many "add-ons" will only be possible once you establish your essentials (venue, food, photographer, dress, invites, BASE decor). Budgeting will be your life saver, because the little extras that people sweat over might not even be within your budget to have to worry about.
Haha. I feel you! It is pretty difficult as there are SO many ideas running around. It can be overwhelming. I find that if you get the most important factors figured out, the rest is just minimal. So for example I quickly figured out the venue, DJ, decor stylist, photographer/videographer, and now I am just waiting until it is time to finalize the other details. Good luck!
It's just overwhelming in the beginning. Lots of options and didn't know where to start. Don't make any decision yet, just surf the net and look for ideas. Eventually, you will start figuring out what you want and could start imagining what would your wedding look like. Then, it's time to look for vendors. Don't freak out. It will be very fun experiences, I assured you.
I am loving it but there's some times I'm frustrated ! lol it starts with budget and seeing what can afford and seeing what's available and what your wish list is vs what your needs are. What do you need help with?
The only thing I've found hard through this whole planning process was dealing with some people's negativity. Otherwise it's been very fun and exciting! Money can be a big stressor too but make sure you have all of your finances in order before starting to plan anything.
The closer I get the more stressful it gets yes, BUT I know it will be worth it and on the days it feels tough I pause and take a a step back for a little while and then start back up. Paving yourself and not leaving things last minute is a good start. Today we went bridemaids dress shopping and that was def a fun one to check off my list
Take your time! And research what you want and ask friends for their recommendations! It really helps. I found my planning process to not be too bad but I had an amazing support group. Don't be afraid to talk to friends and family, it really helps. If you find it super overwhelming, maybe talk to a planner. Good luck planning!
I found that finding the venue was one of the hardest thing. We both had a budget in mind and we had to find something within that budget. The second hardest was a photographer but that is because my fiancé finds hiring someone to take photos is a joke. So trying to find someone that he really liked as well within the budget was hard but we did find one.
Just remind yourself self of what is important for you. That is what I do on a daily basis.
It is hard but overall I found it to be a fun experience. As LB said, if you are not having fun you need to take a step back. Also, talk to your fiancé. When ever I’d hit a wall and get stressed out we would talk things through and it made me feel a lot better.