Picking a MOH

Pick NONE. im not having a MOH cuz all the girls i picked i cant choose between them all!

That is a dilemma! I also don't have a sister so that wasn't a factor for me, but it sure would've made things easier. None of my bridesmaids are super close (geographically) to me, except one of my university roommates who is still in school - she's my unofficial MOH since she is in school and I didn't want to overwhelm her with more.

Have you considered not having a MOH? You'll still have to have someone sign the register, and that could be your sister, and the planning duties will fall equally amongst the bridal party.

I had a similar dilemma, but I ended up choosing one of my best friends who I feel like understands me the most and is most similar to me. I was worried about this upsetting my other best friend, but in the end I decided it was my day and I should go with my gut. My MOH is extremely busy though, she if in pharmacy school, and she lives in a different city for most of the year. I thought about this and decided to choose her anyway because she is the one I always pictured standing next to me. My other best friend will be right beside her. I also have a sister (I have 3 actually, but two aren't as close, and if I were having a large wedding party I would include them, but it will just be small) who will be one of my bridesmaids, I thought about making her MOH just so I wouldn't have to choose between my best friends, but at the end of the day, I decided it wouldn't break any friendships or upset anyone too much. My sister will likely end up helping out with most of the preparation tasks, but I don't think there will be that much to do, and I know there will be a lot of people outside of the wedding party who will be willing to help out as well.

I would say go with your gut, go with who feels right and who you most want right beside you to support you throughout your day!

I would say your sister- even if you aren't close she is in same province and will be able to help more than someone outside prov (I know just because have someone who is outside of province) and as you said with the one who will be pregnant or trying will be distracted with that.

This also might help your relationship and become closer with her.

I personally vote to pick your sister. Family is forever and just because you are close to your BFF's right now doesn't mean they will be there forever. Heck, one of my Godmother's (I have 2 Godmothers and 2 Godfathers - Ukrainian Christian Orthodox) was my Mom's best friend before I was born.... I've seen her a total of 2 times in my life..... So....

So I have a Maid of Honor, Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid (sister, BFF, future sister in-law). BUT my BFF just got married and she had this same issue - she just made all three of us bridesmaids and divided the tasks up (i.e. one did planning/decor, another did the baking and the signing, third did speech and bachelorette). It worked great, no one was offended or overworked!

I have two MOH. I was MOH for their wedding and i just couldn't choose.

In reality though, 2 of my girls are moms of twins, we don't all live in the same province and everyone is extremely busy so I asked different kind of help from each of my girls!

I know its hard picking 1 of the 3 choices you have in mind. Pros and Cons can help to make your decision based on whom is the best person to stand beside you also being your right hand supporter.

I didn't even have my own brother as my Best Man since we don't see eye to eye on most things. It was one of my best friends that knows me well enough and helped me realize at times that life isn't just roses. The thorns can be prickly at times to feel the pain.