Parents just don't understand!

My parents have been surprisingly good overall when I've been firm about not wanting/wanting certain things at the wedding that might not be as familiar to them. I had to work my mom out of the idea of us having a receiving line but eventually she understood my point.

My Aunt (adopted mother) is INSISTING that us having more then a maid of honor and best man is absolutely ludacris. We each have 5 on our sides.

My parents aren't the issue it's everyone else in my family that is trying to push their opinions and force traditions I don't want and live their wedding dreams through me. I just want to have the ceremony (which is the only important part for me) and then be able to go to the reception and just relax with no timelines, no planned out and choreographed moments, no stop everyone and look at this moment over here.

My parents are pretty supportive of just do what you want and plan the day how you want it and don't let other people tell you what or how you need to do things. But thats probably because when they wanted to get married they had just wanted to quietly go to the court house and elope. Grandmas found out and they were forced to have a wedding reception they never wanted.

View quoted message That’s pretty funny! See my mum has only ever been a guest at a wedding here, she’s never been behind the scenes so to speak so she has no clue on some of the things.

View quoted message I'm from England too, and my mom has also been the same..even though she got remarried here in Canada, but she still compares things to what they were like when we lived in England and her original wedding to my dad lol

My parents are divorced and both remarried. My dad and step mom didn't do anything traditional since it was both their second time, so they have been awesome with the planning. My mom wasn't a huge fan of me telling her it's a unplugged ceremony, she really wants her own pictures of me getting married so she had a difficult time with that. My future in-laws have been the difficult ones, not my FFIL he doesn't care, but my FMIL and her sister have been in me about everything.. They don't like the fact we won't be doing a receiving line, we will be spending the night before together, I'm adding colour to my wedding dress, no plus ones, uneven wedding party and some other things..

View quoted message My mother in law would invite all her friends if my fiancé and I would let her. I have family in England that I’ve spent my whole life with who may not make it, I’m not spending time surrounded by random people my fiancé has met like once!

My parents have been pretty good. I don't think this is a generational thing but my dad wanted to invite all his friends and couldn't understand why I didn't want people i dont know at our small 70 person wedding.

My mum has only got hung up about the cake. She was SHOCKED we weren't having one. Then she went to someone else's wedding where they didn't have one and is now perfectly okay with it. lol.

The main argument has been from my FMIL... not having my FSIL be a bridesmaid. Again, I don't think that's generational though. almost 12 months with complaints about it (for the record my FSIL just had a baby so I think its worked out for her that she's NOT a bridesmaid)

We’re from England so the hardest things for my mum to understand are things that would never happen in the uk ie. the concept of renting all your tableware and a cutting fee for the cake. The cutting fee for the cake one was funny. She couldn’t get over someone charging $2 a person to cut a cake. Now herself and a family friend are cutting it to save money so it worked out

My need for 3 envelopes for the invitations!

We are sending a lot of overseas invitations and in some cases more than one goes to the same address - so I need one envelope for that (to cut costs).

Then there's the actual invitation envelope, what we sealed with a wax seal - because it's so cool and goes with the theme lol and so that one does not get ruined, we're mailing them all out in a white envelope where the stamp and address will go.

My mom wouldn't understand why I needed so many envelopes and I didn't tell her about the wax seal (surprise and all) so that was a bit of an argument there haha