Paperless Invites

I highly recommend paperless post!! There is an option to set up an RSVP through there too, which might be easier than sending guests to a separate website (they'd get the email with the the invitation and the direct link to rsvp on paperless post).

There are a few good free card options, which I would suggest for the save the dates and the thank yous. For the actual invitation, I would suggest spending some money for the extras like nicer card options and the "envelope" so they still have that special wedding invitation feel.

The absolutely best part about paperless post for me was the tracking feature. Once your invites are sent, the tracker will show you if any bounced, AND....this is the best...when people have actually opened the email and looked at it. This is huge because there's always that fear that emailed invites end up in people junk mail.

I wanted to do completely paperless but we settled on everyone in our age group getting a facebook even invite and older generations getting an actual invite which my partner hand delivered to all the relatives that live close by. No one has been offended so far. I think most people who care about you won't care too much about the little things.
A personal thank you text message or phone call to each person after is a really nice idea, most cards just get tossed anyway.

View quoted message I agree with this.Not getting an actual thank you if I went out and bought you an actual gift is slightly rude.

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I agree. The whole wedding planning process in general is overwhelming!! Maybe that's just me. Anyways, I ended up using Smilebox for the save the dates! I did pay a bit but all the free options online I found were only a few templates and had a watermark on them. Did you end up finding what you'll use?

We sent the save the dates by email personally. We are having a smaller wedding, so this made the process easier to do manually. We made a Facebook group requesting everyone's emails and addresses before we sent them. We really wish sending Save The Dates and Thank you cards was an option through WeddingWire, just like the actual invites. *(hint hint, wedding wire hehe)

I did just hear about WithJoy.com, and have heard raving reviews, so that is probably the route we will be going for our paperless everything as well! Good luck!

View quoted message I work at Staples (Corporate) and totally didn’t even think to look at the store services! Btw the system won’t let me reply to you ☹️

Look at WithJoy.com - They have been awesome. You can send a variety of different invites at different times during the planning process.

View quoted message Hahahha don’t worry! I realized I wasn’t very clear 😅

View quoted message That makes so much more sense.
I hope I didn't come across as the crazy thank you card lady!

View quoted message Right?? I went to a wedding this past Fall and the bride took the time to individually send a personalized text message to every single one of her 300 guests. In her message she sent a picture from her wedding with a thank you watermark on it. I actually thought it was a nice personal touch for her to start a conversation and thank us for our gift. I’m trying to find a nice way to do everything electronically while still having that personal touch and feel

View quoted message We would definitely send thank you messages to everyone! I was thinking maybe an electronic version of some sort for most guests and a special magnet or paper thank you note to close friends or family (aka the people who would actually care about keeping something like this from our wedding!) I’m a chemical/environmental engineer so I’m trying to be conscious of having a sustainable wedding. Saving on paper that some people will throw away is important to me

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To be fair we sent out everything about a year in advance. So a reminder email is fair!

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They were more pricey definitely - mostly due to shipping cause they were heavier. I ordered mine from Staples.

I feel like digital thank yous are underrated. You can still personally each one as if you're writing an email to individuals. And if you send a link to the wedding photos or your wedding video, it adds something extra for them.

View quoted message Do one for everyone who gets you a gift. They got you something or gave you cash so they deserve at least a short note. You can buy thank you cards in bulk on Amazon and stamps at Costco so it might be MAX $2.50 per card with postage.


Not sending thank yous can really offend people. I still haven't gotten one for a wedding in 2017 and I'm a little bitter about it. If you lose the list of gifts send something generic, but still send a note.

View quoted message Hahha that gif! Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with all the options available! We will find something 😊 let me know what you end up doing!

View quoted message I’ll check out Greenvelope! Thanks for the suggestion 😊

View quoted message Good to know it went well 😊 and great idea to send out a reminder! Our wedding is on a Friday so we wanted to send the save the dates and invitation pretty early in case guests have to take time off but I was worrying that some people may forget!

View quoted message I love the idea of magnets! Maybe we could do some along with our thank you cards. Are they a lot more pricey?

View quoted message Etsy! 😍 For some reason I completely did not think of checking Etsy for some templates!

View quoted message Looks like we’re in the same boat! Plus my fiancé is a software engineer so we want to try to be a bit more tecchy!

View quoted message That’s a good suggestion to do paper thank you cards. We might do that at least for our closest friends and family members

View quoted message I’ve heard good things about Paperless Post! I agree, I think sending by email would make it easier to address each invitee

We are going paperless too! Just need to figure out how haha. It looks like if you want it to be animated or without a watermark you have to pay.

A lot of people are doing this and its great! i love having the online invitation. ask for peoples emails and check peoples fb a lot of people have their personal email listed !!

My cousin went paper for the Save the Date and Thank You. Paperless for the invite as it had all the information required along with maps of the events held at the venues.
Anything is possible to do now a days since you have the choice of going paperless for everything and anything. You wish to go paperless to save the cost of postage, that sounds reasonable. You two have the access to the website in which your guests can login in to view anything sent.

We didn't do STDs and we did paper invitations - but if we had done everything online (we had guests who didn't have access to the internet so we couldn't) we would have just asked people through sites like FB for their email address' and send them that way.

As is we just put on our invitations in the mail and requested that they RSVP to me via call/text/email.

We used Greenvelope!

We just sent them yesterday but we put all of the details on the front and a link to our weddingwire website on the back!

It was very easy and so far have had no issues

We went completely paperless. It worked well for the most part. We just sent everyone the website link and left it at that. It made RSVP's so much faster. Except people forgot about it and started asking if I ever sent on an invitation. So a few weeks ago I sent out a reminder with the link, as we're less than 2 months away.

I think doing your save the dates, invite and RSVPs paperless will be a great idea! (unless you have guests who aren't tech savvy).

We have older guests coming so going paperless unfortunately wasn't an option for us. We did magnet Save the Dates and some older guests thought they were an invitation LOL.

The only thing I would suggest is I wouldn't do paperless thank you cards. I think guests really appreciate receiving an actual card - its more personal than an email or e-thank you, in my opinion.

We are doing paperless save the dates and invitations as well. We bought a template off of etsy for $6 and emailed it out as a jpg in the body of the email to everyone for our save the dates. We will most likely do the same for our invitations and have rsvp's either through our website or through email.

We're going completely digital. We're lucky in that we don't have anyone who is completely tech-phobic. They either have email or they are super active on social media so the invite will get where it needs to go.

For thank yous, we're going to send those out with a link to the photo album.