Overload of stress -.-

Oh no! I would have cried when receiving that bill! My parents offered to cover the difference of plate because they wanted traditional food. They gave me about 800 out of the full amount which didn't even come close to what they were supposed to pay for the difference per plate. My mom recently said if anyone says no on our side we want to invite more relatives. I told her no because we didn't get to hardly invite any friends. She then offered to pay for their plates- I said thats fine but I need the actual money before she gives invites because can't afford those extra plates

We just got hit with a $1,440 bill from the venue. My mother had offered to pay for the catering and then decided she only wanted to cover 75% of it. HAHA so thank god the bank just offered me more $$ on my credit card otherwise we are so screwed.

so I know how you feel. Chat with your FH about your stress

I am going to try the account and see how it helps- appreciate your support Vinod ! I am stubborn when comes to asking parents to borrow money, I have in the past and paid back promptly but I would like for him to be the to ask for once and have to pay it back instead of me. We are doing wedding stuff this weekend on the Sunday and going to talk more with him then.

I had the same issue with most that are saying you need help or anything you can spare to help with the financial cost of the wedding. Always had the answer to avoid to the question and never gave anything as he is bad with money as most are. Never asked again until the last 2 months he said he would pay the Officiant and for the wedding bands.

Cost surprises of the Will is always something they catch you on and want to get paid not realizing it should have been stated or when the payment date indication on the contract.

One thing I did to be safe and secure so that nothing was touched was setting up another account for the wedding payments as a portion from all paycheques were put in that account. It helped a lot knowing the money isn't being spent on anything else besides its purpose.

Borrowing from your parents can help if they are letting you do so and that amount added to pay back is knowing its there to give back too in the same account as the wedding funds. They know how hard it is and helping with a solution to the expense to be paid.

That's a good idea and small world haha

I hear you! Its crazy how all the little things add up. My Fiance and I opened a joint account that we both put money in to pay for wedding items which has helped but since i'm doing majority of the planning there has been a lot of items on my credit card and not taking the amount out of the bank account which added up quickly!! You could ask him to speak to his parents to see if they are able to contribute in some way?

Side note: We are both Grey County Ontario September brides

That must be so frustrating. I hope this weekend goes well, and remember to take a breather and remember all of the things he is amazing at. I find that it helps me be more patient with his little downfalls

My fh is amazing in so many other ways but horrible with money... I have spoke to him and he always says things will be fine. This weekend going to physically show him the list of what is remaining and the balances to make a point we don't have much time and we need to pay all of this. Ask how he can help or what he can help with as can't do alone.

I find it funny when he gets really stressed about the wedding when he hasn't paid or physically done anything yet. I just get really frustrated when he does that! It was better after we had a buck & doe and paid off pretty much majority of it. I also organized and did all the leg work/deposits.

Hopefully physically showing him will help him realize how much is left and what we need to do,

I feel where you're coming from. My FH is the sweetest guy alive, but he's been really hands-off with all of the planning because he's been swamped at work. Because of this, he forgets that it doesn't just fall together, and that there are things to be planned and paid for. He made fun of me a while back for being stressed, and I snapped a little bit and told him about how stressful it is to organize everything and try to pull the money for it. We came to an agreement then that if there was any issues with regards to money, I just tell him right off the bat and he'll help me figure it out.

We are two days out now, and everything is set. Now I'm finally relaxed and he's the one stressing because he's realizing how many things have to line up, but I've taken care of all of it

Money is so stressful. I am sorry that it's taking a toll on you. The unforeseen expense with the lawyer definitely adds to all of it. Were you able to sit with your FH and talk about the stress you're going through? Maybe look at your money together and try to see if there is anything you can cut here and there until the wedding to help you pay with the cost?