One major piece of advice?

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I totally feel you.

I heard about this couple (through a different wedding board) who planned their WHOLE wedding and then got engaged. By the time they announced it to family/friends, everything was already done. No fussing or fighting with family - just tell people where and when to show up and say everything is already taken care of!

haha this is not my own advice, but man would it have made the guest list issues I'm having easier!!

Haha good advise!

I think its so easy to get caught up in the details and stress over the little things.

No one will remember the details, so they're not worth stressing over.

My mom says to make sure you pick your wedding party as the best people for the job. (Ie. Who can help out and who won’t flake last minute). That’s why I changed my MOH and honestly, I’m SO GLAD I Did!

View quoted message I agree, I have only asked 3 people so far. And I am going to take my time with the rest and Enjoy being Engaged to my Fiancé

GO FOR A HAIR TRIAL.

I did not and my ended up ripping my hair out after the stylist did it. I redid it myself when i got back to the hotel.

I'm only in the very beginning stages of planning, but I'm already finding that it's mostly better to keep big details to myself until it's too late to change them. I'm getting a little bit of push back from my mum about guest list and venue (too expensive, according to her... even though we're paying for everything ourselves), and I'm honestly planning on not telling her much more until those things are locked down and it's too late for her to really do anything about it. Sad that I have to do it that way, but it's stressful enough without getting negativity from your family!

Don't be influenced by others opinions. Currently, my MIL is appalled that we don't have a theme (colour or otherwise) and I've having a difficult time trying to explain to her that what I like now is not what was trendy for weddings the last time she planned one (my FSIL's in 2010).

One piece of advice I would give, is take your time to picking out your wedding party, and enjoy your time being engaged before planning.

Take time to look back at how far you have come in the planning process. When you start to feel overwhelmed, step back and look at everything you have accomplished.

Don't be afraid to buy something used and do a little DIY to make it yours and save some money.

Take time to edit your Pinterest board to reflect the direction your event it taking. Helps keep you from being distracted by other fantastic ideas.

Mine would be start saving earlier and more!!

Mine is asking people who have no interest in wedding planning to be a part of the wedding. There was no point in having a wedding party. Nobody helped with a single thing and just caused more stress and drama.

- Stick to your guns (everyone has an opinion about everything but don't let that sway you)

- Have a united front

- Don't share too many details

- You'll probably need way less than you think

- Make sure you agree on a budget

- Always communicate and keep each other up to date

Have a united front, when it comes to what you're going to share. A few times already, my FH has said or agreed on something that we didn't want because he felt pressured to respond.

Anytime you're seeing family/close friends, agree on a one-liner regarding the wedding like "we're still exploring options that would fit our budget" or "I think we've picked something, but wouldn't want to ruin the surprise."

Any detail of the day shouldn't be told unless its huge expense that the family is paying for you.

Seating plan was never told to anyone and all the guests found their names and table numbers.

I always told the girls at my husbands salon "if i tell you, i have to kill you". They knew i was joking that way though.

View quoted message Exactly! Haha.

I’m getting some pretty major alterations done to my dress though so the pictures they have are close, but not what the dress will look like in the end. So there is still some element of surprise for everyone who has seen it.

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Oh no!

It's tough cause you know its just cause they are SUPER excited, but you just want to shake them and be like.. STOP IT! lol

You're going to look GORGEOUS!

My piece of advice would be to not tell/show anyone anything you don’t want everyone to know. My mother and my FMIL have both shown everyone any aspect about my wedding that they know about. Including my dress. And that has been devastating for me. Needless to say, that once my alterations are done, there won’t be any pictures being taken...

I would say, if your dead set on anything, don’t tell anyone. Haha. Seriously, there always has to be one person to shoot it down. I feel alone in planning because there is specific things I want, and I don’t want to hear how it’s a waste of money or time. We are paying for the entire wedding ourselves, so if I feel inclined to buy 100 napkins, sashes and a bunch of table runners for the perfect colour, then I shouldn’t have to deal with the negativity. Lol