Nothing going to plan :(

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It is traditional to have two wedding day. iam upset because my fiancee dont support my vision and my bridemaid are difficult to work with and i shouldhave ask other people to be bridemaids who can be helpful instead of difficult!

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They are already there they just have to call out our names! why should that be more money???

i always dream of dream wedding thats magical but now i cannot have it

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Exactly!!!! they should support my vision not let me down!!! thank you!!!

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If my husband love me he should support my vision instead he is refusing to give me dream wedding but will pay for people to eat free food at rehearsal dinner

i ask my cousin to be photographer becuz hes new and he can use the experience to help him

my fiancee ask his friend to make announcement but i prefer dj do it because his friend is not very funny

Not sure why you were planning two receptions to begin with when you knew you couldn't afford it. You need to look at the positives and not get upset at your fiance or bridal party just because they're not buying into all your demands. They seem to be doing their best, staying positive, and making the most of the situation while.

Take a breath. Try to stay calm. Sometimes things don't go according to plan even when we manage to plan everything. A wedding with 300 guests is expensive especially if you aren't employed and your family or FH do not have the money to foot that bill. And taking loans to pay for it is likely to leave you with a lot of debt at the start of your marriage.

Perhaps, you could consider scaling things back a bit so you don't burn yourself out or frustrate the people who are willing to help you. You described the wedding you envisioned as glamorous. Write down what that means to you. You can still have that wedding albeit a smaller version of it. Remember. Even "cheap" weddings cost money.

Revise your vision board. List 3-5 things that are a high priority for your wedding. Decide on how much money you have to spend. Make a list of things that you need to get done then ask people (bridesmaids, friends, family) to help with specific things. If the appearance of the community centre is not appealing, you could try booking a park or a garden- they have beautiful sceneries and are often free or affordable.

Hire a photographer. You don't want to risk your cousin getting caught up in the festivities and forgetting to photograph keep moments of your wedding. Check with your university - you may be able to find aspiring photographers there who would do a good job for a reasonable price.

The MCs request is reasonable since you are asking him/her to do more work. As Danielle suggested, ask a friend or family member to serve as your MC. As long as they are personable, entertaining, and engaging, it will be great.

Your wedding day should be about you having fun and being with the people you love NOT the things that make the venues beautiful. I hope everything works out for you.

Your FH and wedding party don't seem to show any interest or excitement towards the day for the pre events and wedding day. Its sad how they are letting you down so much. Vendors and family members to do the work do want to get their time paid and services according to the amount given to MC along being a DJ.
Things will feel all over because you need to get their attention for what your vision is for the day as to the glamour set in your mind.

I would recommend taking a step back and asking yourself what is most important to you about your wedding - Is it about marrying someone you love deeply and starting a future together or just the idea of a glamorous day? I get that you are frustrated to not have the vision you wanted come to life but sometimes we can’t have all of the things that social media would make us believe we “need” to make our wedding journey special and that shouldn’t make it any less of a special day. There are so many ways you can bring a wedding vision to life on a budget. Considering you seem to be having some issues with people, would you consider a beautiful elopement instead? I planned my own bachelorette and rehearsal dinner and other than that did not want any other parties and didn’t feel right putting extra pressure on my bridesmaids. They surprised me and made things special in other ways but I don’t think it’s necessary for them to surprise you with elaborate events. If you want those, there is nothing that says you can’t make them happen yourself, exactly how you would like them to.

Just take a step back and breathe - Write down a list of must-haves and why they are needed and also write down things you can live without as well as ideas on things you can compromise on. Most people don’t get everything they want for their wedding - there are compromises to be made but if you keep your focus on what’s most important, the day will be perfect for you, regardless.

As for photos - If someone is a photographer, family or not, they should be compensated for their work - Unless they told you they would gift you their services for free. And pretty much all DJs will charge an extra fee to MC - it’s an added job for them. One thing you can do is ask a family member or friend or two to MC on your behalf - Someone who isn’t shy behind the mic and who it would be an honour for