Not doing a gift registry

We're in a similar situation.

We don't have a registry, and when guests ask we tell them we don't have one and to just focus on coming and celebrating with us.

People will get the hint, but we also honestly believe that if someone comes without a gift that will be alright.

We're having a cross country wedding so all but 3 guests will be coming from out of own. We don't want folks to also be burdened with getting a gift for us, and we don't want to have to cart anything back.

My cousin who recently got married, already had a home set up and didn't need any items from a traditional wedding registry. What they did was have an option that people could gift them excursions on their honeymoon, or just, in general, contribute to their honeymoon. I think that could work because some people like to bless the bride and groom with a gift of some sort. Just an idea

We're in the same boat!

My mom is making me do a registry though - its going to be super small so hopefully people get the message we just did a few things we wanted to upgrade

My future MIL is going to just tell her family to give us cash though when they ask

The choice of going cash is always helpful towards home renovations, donations if choosing that path, or something you both enjoy very much sports/hobby wise.

I come from an Indian family and registries are not something we do now a days when attending any wedding. The phrase No Boxed Gifts Please is a nice simple gesture for your guests to come lightly prepared.

I know what your mom is trying to say about the poem. But I like that kind of stuff personally even if I know it can be corny, I’m corny!

I would let them know somewhere what the plan is, if you don’t wanna put it on the invite, post it on your website and tell people verbally when they ask. Just explain the situation. Another thing you can do is a Honeymoon Registry so your guests know what they are buying you. Like an excursion or your flights. We aren’t 100% on what our plans are yet. Still mulling it over.

We've told our parents, that we weren't registered anywhere and would be asking gifts of cash, in case extended family asked them in advance.

We're also including this blurb on our wedding website:

"The most important thing is to have you with us on our special day.

No gifts are needed or expected, however we have been asked what we need or would like and, if you do wish to give us something, a little cash towards our first house would be very much appreciated."

I'm not doing a poem, or having a registry so people should get the hint to bring a monetary gift!

Tori's right, a lot of people nowadays live together before marriage, what I really needed was a "moving out of my parent's house/going to university" registry lol jk!

Agreed. I think indicating "monetary gifts preferred" somewhere (such as on the back of your RSVP with a link to your wedding website or just having the statement on your wedding website under 'Registry') is enough.

I personally think that some of the poems can be sweet and cute - but at the same time there is just no room for it on the invite and I'm not making more inserts!! lol If anything I will put together a small registry for those who don't like giving cash so that they don't get you whatever they think you want and then it end up being ugly af.

I get where you're coming from though, most people nowadays have lived together before marriage (me and the FH will have lived in our house for a year and a few months by the time the wedding rolls around).