Not choosing a girl to be a bridesmaid when I was her MOH

Does she know you have much closer friends and family? It might come to her as a shock since she considers you a MOH closeness but you don’t even want her in your bridal party. Prepare a reason so if she asks she can feel more at peace, like if you mostly chose family or kept the bridal party small etc

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Well, you could just pick your girls and don't have to have any special conversation with the one you don't want involved. Hopefully she will still accept your invitation to your wedding even if she's not in the wedding party.

View quoted message She hasn't mentioned it because we havent asked anyone yet to be in our bridal party. But out of those I want to ask she isn't part of those girls. However I still want her at the wedding and to come celebrate at all other things.

View quoted message Her wedding hasn't happened yet. We are still friends but I feel like she is close enough to me to be part of the bridal.

View quoted message Her wedding hasn't happened yet so I dont know if she will make it an issue.

Hmmm, has said friend mentioned that she's expecting to be in your bridal party? Or asked you who you have chosen? You could honestly just not address the issue since it really shouldn't be an issue. You're both adults and you're allowed to have whomever you want (or don't want) in your bridal party.

Again, if her wedding was a while ago, your relationship is subject to change and you might not be as close anymore. Or she is close to you but not the other way around (if that makes sense). I wouldn't mention it unless she asks, then you could say something like you wanted a smaller wedding party, or you haven't thought about the wedding party yet (this one only works for some time - eventually you'll have to say something else).

If you are already feeling you don't want her in your wedding party now that likely won't change, but I suggested you give it a bit of time and really think about who you want being in your bridal party. Just because you were in her bridal party doesn't mean you have to have her in yours. It's your day and it's about you.

Personally when I got engaged I was so in shock and excited I made some decisions I regret. Like my bridal party. I asked my friend to be a bm because I will be one in her up coming wedding. But I honestly wish I hadn't as we had a huge falling out last summer which we later worked out but since then we haven't been as close. So definitely think it over before announcing anything.

Your wedding is about you and your loved ones! I made the mistake of choosing my bridesmaids too soon, and now I have the problem where one girl is a bridesmaid but now I wish she wasn't. What important is that you feel supported and comfortable with the ladies you have beside you. Don't feel obligated to have someone join you if you aren't that close with them, just because they felt that close to you

I mean, don't mention it unless she brings it up - but if it does come up, I'm sure you can explain it some how.

Small wedding party?

Family in the wedding party instead?

If those aren't true then just be honest with her, just because you may be her go-to doesn't mean that she is yours.

As Amanda mentioned relationships do change, people change over time, did she mention she was expecting it or are you still close but rather other people in yours? Don't choose people because you feel obligated, you will wish you didn't in the end and had someone you wanted in there.

I was a bridesmaid in someone's wedding who isn't invited to mine at all.. sure time has passed since her wedding, but still.. relationships change and just because one person feels one way about the relationship doesn't mean you both have to feel that way.

Don't ask her. do not ask someone to be in your party just because they have you in theirs.. but be prepared to explain that in case she asks.. it will make for an awkward conversation and feelings may be hurt but you need to be honest.

Don’t have her if you don’t feel close to her! It’s your day - pick who you want up there with you!