Nonbinary and engaged. Help!

Welcome and as as gender neutral option, it should be given. Some sites are not as open to the idea. Though Broom would be nice and a virtual cleaning tool. Gride is definitely new and refreshing.

View quoted message Not a bad idea! Just maybe worried about being mixed up with a professional wedding planner, haha.

How about something generic like planner and planee lol

View quoted message Thanks so much for your advice! I will definitely check that out.

Welcome Lee-Andrea!

I love your supreme leader lol - I'd suggest rolling with it! Someone needs to come up with a good gender neutral alternative for bride/groom! You can always just say spouse to for simplicity.

Also, if you're not crazy on the bridesmaid wording, I personally love Head of Entourage (I'd shorten it to HE and not HoE) and then the rest of the "bridal" side would be your entourage!

I'd recommend checking out OffBeatBride - they have lots of articles for "less-traditional" wedding planning but our Wedding Wire community is inclusive too if you ever have questions

View quoted message Thank you for the warm welcome! We are definitely trying to stick to genderless terms as much as possible. Wedding shower instead of bridal shower is easy enough, and I suppose I could go with spouce, or SO. It's not the end of the world! I'm getting married after all!

View quoted message Thank you so much for your advice! Maybe just plain Supreme Being will do at this point right? Lol

View quoted message Thank you for the kind words! I feel like broom is okay, but my brain goes to "the one cleaning up after everyone" which I guess I do anyway, but I don't want to solidify that on my wedding day. Haha honestly, it sounds silly when I type it out.
We also have a mixed wedding party! I've been trying to come up with things like "Head of Entourage" (I just realized this shortens to "hoe" and maybe that's not so nice, know your crowd I guess lol ...) , "High Admiral", "Party Marshal" "Best Mate" etc.

I like Kelsey's idea of just removing the terms "bride and groom" and calling yourselves "the couple", though I do kind of like "broom" because I'm the kind of person who likes to make jokes about coming out of the closet haha.

Unfortunately weddings are very very heteronormative still when it comes to terms like this. My fiancé (who is a trans-man and has mostly female identifying friends) and I always get confused looks when we mention that we have a Best Lady and several Groomsmaids on his side of the wedding party.

I'm also on the hunt for a good non-binary term to use to refer to my best friend who uses they/them pronouns and is filling an "of honour" position in our wedding.

Welcome!


I love supreme leader. You could wedding it up like Supreme Planner or something like that. When it came to vendors, I made sure I was explicit from the get-go. Unfortunately the wedding world is ripe with cisheteronormativity so I found being open from the start avoided awkwardness.As for ww, that’s a good point! There should be an option outside of groom/bride. Maybe that’s a tip tech could work on.

Welcome to wedding wire. I love supreme leader. I would totally go with that myself if you hadn't thought of it first 😉

Welcome! Love to see more queer people on this site!

The best I can come up with is simply removing words like Bride and Groom from the ceremony and conversations. Use your names instead of bride/groom titles (Lee-Andrea's Mom instead of Mother of the Bride/Groom), or call yourselves "the couple" or "the newlyweds" when referring to the two of you. I hope you come up with something that works!