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Megan
Beginner October 2019 Ontario

No wedding party

Megan, on August 3, 2018 at 08:59 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 12
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We are not having a whole wedding party. It is a pretty small wedding, I have no close friends and I could not choose anyone to give a title of “maid of honour” or “bridesmaid” to (I don’t like labels). My fiancée is ok with not having a wedding party but he insists on having a best man, his best friend, which makes sense. He will be standing on his side which means I should have one person on my side. We obviously need 2 witnesses anyway so that would make sense. It’s sad that I can’t think of ONE person I would want. I’ve considered having my brother or his girlfriend who I get along with well. I have two brothers, one I am close with and the other I am not. If I choose the brother I am close with, Is it wrong that I am choosing one over the other and does it look weird to have him stand with my flowers? I know the witness or MOH doesn’t HAVE to be a female. If I choose his girlfriend, that would be ok and it would look more “appropriate” but obviously I have been close with my brother my entire life and I’ve only known her 3 years. What should I do??

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Latest activity by Allison, on August 7, 2018 at 17:20
  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Allison ·
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    I would have a man of honour. My FH doesn't have a lot of close guy friends so he's having a best woman!

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  • Haley
    Newbie June 2019 Ontario
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    You should make your brother the Man of Honor and he can always hand your bouquet to his girlfriend or someone in the front row to hold during the ceremony.
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  • Kaisha
    Super March 2019 Nova Scotia
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    I would definitely just do what you feel is best, you wouldn't even have to give them an official title you could easily just call them a witness. I also see absolutely nothing wrong with choosing one brother over the other or having him hold your flowers. He also wouldn't need to stand with you. My FH may ask his dad to be his witness even though his dad will not be standing with him.


    For our wedding party I will have 2 women and a man and my FH is having 2 women. So not only are they not the same size they are also not traditional. A few people have commented but this is the people who were the most important to us and at the end of the day that's all that matters.

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  • Geneviève
    VIP September 2020 Ontario
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    I think you should pick the person you really, really want beside you during this big moment. Sure aesthetic looks nice and I'm sure both candidates are fantastic people but I think the person you are closest to would be the best one because it will be a great memory for both of you. It's not picking one over the other, it's who will be there to cherish it with you beyond the big day too.

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  • Angel
    Frequent user June 2019 British Columbia
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    My friend had a Man of Honour too. It was pretty funny because he also participated in the door games and make up session. He was wearing a floral robe like the other gals. I think that's definitely not a problem. Pick whoever you want to be standing up with you at the altar. It is YOUR big day after all!

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  • Brittany
    British Columbia
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    I know you said you don't like labels but... Man Of Honour! Haha. I think it's totally fine for your brother to stand with you. And in terms of one brother feeling left out, just say, "I need one person for a witness"... most likely siblings know that two my be closer than others, so I don't see your other brother being offended.

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  • Erin
    Master September 2017 Ontario
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    I think it is fine to have your brother stand up as witness for you. You also don't need to feel bad about choosing one brother over the other.

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  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019 Ontario
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    That’s true. He does have other friends he could ask but not sure he cares to have them lol only his best friend. Thanks for your advice though!
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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    In that case I would say you do you - I only say that because I asked one of his friends that I'm not close to so that the sides would be even. I'm just not one of those people that like uneven numbers. Any way that your FH has a second best friend? That way you both have 2 on each side?

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  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019 Ontario
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    His sisters are much older and not close to them, no cousins either. Yeah I’m thinking to have my brother but I wonder if I should have both of my brothers up there? I think it’s kind of wrong to choose one. And the numbers don’t HAVE to be even on both sides right.. what do you think of that?
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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    Don't suppose your FH has any sisters or close cousins? That is what I ended up doing - I have a bridal party of 5 and one of them is his cousin who he grew up with and I see frequently.

    If not then I would say that if I were you I would ask the brother that you are closest to - have him be your man of honour.

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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Your brother's girlfriend can stand with you if you are close to her. Having just one each side sounds better than nothing at all. Besides it will be easier for them to sign after being up there with you as well.

    We also had a 4 wedding party to keep it simple and short.
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