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Ashley
Newbie July 2022 Ontario

My mother wants to wear a flashy dress to wedding. Help!!!

Ashley, on February 27, 2019 at 20:25 Posted in Wedding fashion 0 9
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Hi all!

My mother is pretty set on wearing a dress that is mid thigh and flashy and I want her to be in something modest that falls just below the knee. I’m a little worried that she is going to try and upstage because she is a little extra.

Can you ladies dies give me some ideas as to what you are doing for mother of the bride and what are the do’s and do not’s for jewelry, makeup, hair, and dress?

thanks for your help!

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Latest activity by Ashley, on February 28, 2019 at 13:06
  • Ashley
    Newbie July 2022 Ontario
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    True! She has good intentions I know that.
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  • Michelle
    Expert April 2019 Alberta
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    Ashley I promise you, no matter what she decides to wear, she will NOT upstage you. You are the bride, everyone at the wedding knows that. You will hopefully be the only one in white. There will be no mistaking that you're the bride. A wedding dress will always be fancier and nicer than a flashy MOB dress. I can pretty much guarantee that no one there will think she looks better than you do.

    You do want your mom to be comfortable and feel great in what she decides to wear. I know this is yours and your soon to be husbands day, but she is probably just really excited. Mothers think about their daughters wedding day a lot, she wants to dress up for an event she is excited to attend.

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  • Ashley
    Newbie July 2022 Ontario
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    Thanks ladies!! I’m really stressed about this because as much as she says she doesn’t want to upstage I know her so well. I think your advice is very wise and I will probably send her pictures or have her send me pictures of what she was thinking.
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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    I would also suggest going shopping with her! You can even send her some pictures and just say how beautifully it would match with your wedding theme etc.

    I am very grateful that my step mom has put so much thought into what she is wearing. She made sure that it matched the colours, but wasn't the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses. Other than that, I am leaving it completely up to her as to what she wants to wear and what to do for hair and makeup.

    My FMIL has not mentioned anything about what she is wearing, but she is not the type of person to be over the top, so i am not completely worried.


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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    I like the idea of going shopping with her,

    but the main do not's that I can think of are: not too much boobage, no high leg slit, not to heavy of makeup and/or jewellery. And then personally - no full sequin sparkle dress...

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  • Stephanie
    VIP May 2019 Ontario
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    I ditto all of this!

    Also basically what my mom is wearing too haha!

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  • Danielle
    Curious July 2019 Ontario
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    Honestly, I left it up to them and whatever they’re comfortable in. My future mother in law is going for something floor length with sparkle and is joining us for hair and makeup in the morning. My step mom is doing a simple but classic dress (she would wear yoga pants if allowed). Definitely go along if you can, a lot of times they can add a bit of length Or drop the hem slightly. Stress the positives of what you’re looking for (like no Brittney moments when getting out of the car etc.). Or encourage something a little simpler to allow for really nice jewelry that won’t compete with each other. Or a bit more of a sexy dress toned down with flats. The dress shops are great at helping too.
    Finally, don’t worry, no matter what she wears all attention will still be on you. People coming are close friends and family that probably know your mom and accept her and honestly you’ll be so radiant from emotion, you’ll outshine even if wearing a paper bag.
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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
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    Hi Ashley,

    If you are worried about your mom's dress choice, you should suggest going shopping with her. This way, there won't be any surprises and you could compromise on a dress that you both like.

    I don't live in the same province as my mom, so I won't be able to go shopping with her. That being said, we had plenty of conversations over the phone + emails filled with pictures of styles we both liked. One thing is for sure, my mom and I both dislike the style of much of the MOB dresses out there, as they tend to age the mom so much haha.

    All I told my mom was that I didn't want any floor-length dresses or anything too fancy, as we're having a semi-formal wedding, and to keep it light and colourful.

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  • Kelsie
    Master July 2021 Ontario
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    My mom wants a navy blue floor length dress which I think is great!

    Im leaving hair and make up to my mom, whatever she’s comfortable with.

    For jewelry, I think keeping it simple is best. My mom will likely have earrings, necklace and maybe a bracelet. Nothing too flashy or heavy.

    maybe go shopping with your mom and give her some of your vision!
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