Moving Wedding Closer! Excited hard to pick date..

View quoted message Thanks Stephanie! We did check with venue and they were available all of September expect 28th. We choose the 14th because my parents are catering a wedding that day and my sister is in that wedding. Gives time in between. My makeup person wasn’t available for the 7th as well so seemed like 14th worked best for everyone!

I think you should check with venues to see what dates they have available. I also think it is enough notice for your bridesmaid to either switch weekends or find someone to watch her children.

I think the first weekend after school is pretty calm for most people. Just my thoughts but I think back to school is busiest right before going back. My work had a barbecue this past September the Saturday after school started. A lot of people said it was a good time for them because the busy-ness of the summer had died down but they weren't quite into the fall routine yet.

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It's not like you're asking her to "get rid of her kids" for some random reason... It's your wedding. Giving ample notice, and it being literally one of the biggest events of your life, I'm sure she will understand and be supportive!

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Thanks Brittany! I didn't think of the off season part! The person has a hard time as is to get him to pick them up on his weekends but I know she has family members who can watch them as well. I just don't know if she will be offended... Hoping not!

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I agree with Breanne... my step sister has 3 kids with joint custody, and I'm not concerned with giving her enough notice to swap weekends... Unless your bridesmaid's custody sharer has already booked a trip or something with the kids for that weekend...

This past September, Saturday September 16th, and the year before, September 17th, were both beautiful weekends, I knew about 3 couples on each weekend getting married (attended weddings on both of those weekends). I don't know what it's like in Ontario, but that weekend is usually beautiful in BC.

It's a great balance between "end of summer" and leaving the busy season...

That being said! Check with a couple potential vendors! Sometimes their "off-season" literally will start that weekend of the 21st, and you could save yourself quite a bit of money by delaying one week!

Maybe this isn't an option, but since she would be giving almost a year and a half notice would it not be possible for your bridesmaid to switch a weekend with her kids? ie she takes them for the 7th and he has them 2 weekends back to back? I could be wrong but that sounds like a reasonable request with that much notice and with a good reason too. I would just ask her because the 14th seems like the great date otherwise.

Even though it is the resend after school starts I would say aim for the 7th.
if the 14th is too crazy because you feel you will have extra stress with her kids around then that should automatically scream no to you.
Also if you leave it for the 21 then tour family has to attend 2 weedings a week apart and that will be expensive especially if they have to travel.
Doing back to back weekend weddings they’d have to budget for gift accordingly, as well as taking care of all the other bills and respinsibilities they have outside the wedding world. Might be easier for the 7th, but if you are super concerned ask family like sister and mom their opinion!