May Wedding 2021

Hey,

My fiancé and I were supposed to get married July 4th 2020 then pushed it to May 29 2021. We are getting married following whatever the covid guidelines will be. We made a list of 5 people, 10 people and 25 people. Max we will be doing is 25 if were able to. It was supposed to be 150. So obviously sad but were not waiting another year to get married. If anything maybe in a year on our first wedding anniversary or two year even if we have to will have a big party then.

We have decided to go virtual for the rest of our family and friends that we weren't able to fit into our small lists of people. We looked into all the different apps but people say the auto isn't great on them and people could barely hear them so my fiancé found a way to hook a better auto device so everything will be more clear. I am making up boxes to drop by at guests doors and mail some out that are too far with our wedding favors and some other stuff I wanted to give each person with a little snack inside and a virtual invite with a schedule.

I scheduled it so that we go from ceremony right into first dance then cutting the cake and making a toast with everyone virtually and in person then saying thank you to everything for joining us virtually sorta thing and then signing off. After signing off we doing pictures and eating and dancing with the guest that were able to attend however many that is.

Happy planning I know its sad and not what we all wanted but I am still excited and I am happy with my plans considering what is going on!! I hope it all works out for you guys!!

Your wedding is important of the date you two chose and make it happen. Don't feel disappointed or let down because of the situation at hand. Its hard to have everyone present though you know a bigger celebration will be held next year as your families will be with you this year. Its a tough year for many couples and making the best of it is what we can do right now. Stay positive yet strong.

Hi Ally!
I am in the same boat. Our wedding is planned for May 1, 2021 (our 10 year anniversary). We will be getting married on that date, as it’s a special day for us as couple. With that being said, my fiancé and I have been having the same conversations and will really dive in and fine tune over the next month, to determine what the heck our guest count and reception looks like.
Our guest list was 90, but we are debating on cutting it down to 50 (45 really, us, officiant and 2 photographers) and having our ceremony and cocktail hour at our venue. We may postpone our reception to another date and invite all 90 guests for perhaps late summer or even fall, but we just can’t decide. We don’t want to give up what we want, but we also have to be realistic. It’s hard! No one thinks about this when planning a wedding; “okay, plan your dream wedding, now cut your guest list in half, shut the bar down at 9pm, you can’t have dancing...etc”...it’s bizarre!We’ve also thought about immediate family + wedding party, with postponing reception and playing a video of ceremony there. Ugh .... it’s tough!We need to send out invitations soon but with no firm idea of what we want, we’re not ready yet. How do you even phrase the invite? “You’re not in our 50 count but please zoom our ceremony and catch us later!?” We’ve put our planning on hold for a bit because I just cry thinking about it all lol. But now it’s January and we’ll have to make these tough decisions soon. I feel for you! You and your partner will make the right decision for you. I wish it was better circumstances for all of us and “regular” festivities and traditions could happen the way they normally would. All of the best wedding planning!

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I totally feel you Our 200+ dream wedding was supposed to be in August as well, and we didn't want settle for something small with all the restrictions.. with no dancing, no real party, etc. I have friends who did this, cancelled their large wedding and had just 10 people, and I can't imagine the regret I would feel if a year later if we were able to have something that resembles a somewhat normal wedding. So we postponed the big wedding to July 2021, but still decided to get married in a civil ceremony with our closest family members back in September. I am soo happy we did, because no matter what happens I have my husband by my side and this is what matters most. But I'm still holding on to hope that we will be able to have our religious ceremony and reception with friends and family, as it just doesn't feel complete without it. I know all of this will pass and the most important thing is everyone's health and safety, but as you said it feels that we've been robbed of all the magic leading up to and around this once in a lifetime event. We'll have our wedding in any shape or form we can in July, as we're already postponing our plans to start a family so we can have the dream wedding and honeymoon we planned. We just have to get through the winter and I hope that with all the vaccine advancements, we can start building the excitement again by spring ♥️

View quoted message Stay positive!! Mine is the 23 aswell
And i think we will be ok
I think it will be a certain % of room capacity

You can have everyone's contact and if things change last minute and u have to lower the number of people you can contact them.
Also i am waiting to send them out instead of jan i am waiting till mid march i think we'll have a better idea of the situation

Same ! Ours is may 23
I wasn't excited before but with vaccine and stuff i keep telling myself they will loosen up restrictions. They can't keep doing this for another 6 months to business owners...
so by doing cards etc im getting myself excited.Worst case scenario I'm just doing the ceremony, ( video + photo half day) and the only thing i can tell myself to make myself happy is that we'll be saving so much money.

Hi there!

I totally understand how you feel. Our wedding is going to be in May 2021 and we also will get married regardless what the restrictions are. I think you could probably send all but with the reality of things sending about 50 might be a safer choice, when the restriction eases up there will still be some limitations, no doubt.
I also feel like people will be more understanding due to circumstances.
We are sending our full list, our planned wedding happen to be a 50 guest wedding, our website will have a COVID-19 section where we will be announcing any changes that might be effected due to restrictions. If you don’t have a website you could always send a COVID-19 update email to your guest list if there were any changes to your wedding plans.
I think the best way to tackle the anxiety is to take it a step at a time and have a plan b that you and your partner are truly happy with. Having a solid plan b can brace your self for a lesser disappoint if it comes to it.
Our plan b is to elope in the mountains, with the assumption that gathering are limited to 10 people outdoors ( including essential vendors (officiant and photographer)). It may not be the original planned wedding we want but we’re happy with the idea of an elopement for ourselves.
Regardless of what your plan b is, be sure that you will be happy with it because there are still chances that it can come do that.

View quoted message Im actually getting them ordered soon because I have them prepared already, and I will be sending them out for April giving a month and a half to 2 months to respond

View quoted message Good for you! Hopefully better in a month or 2. So how far in advance do you plan to do invitations ?

View quoted message Hey, no we are doing everything indoors, except for the wedding photos of course. We have an amazing indoor venue that we had my sisters wedding at so we decided to go back with them, outdoor is always wonderful and there is a better chance with Covid to have the amount of people you want, hope this helps!

View quoted message Hey! I also have a summer wedding.. just wondering if you are doing an outdoor option? Changing my ideas of a venue... and need to decide now or never

I am a May bride. May 23rd. I wish I just got married in August as I would have been able to have 50 people atleast. I was feeling optomistic with having the vacine and what not. But now with the new variant I am getting a little discouraged again. However, that being said we are getting married in May regardless. Yes we want the wedding we dreamed of and planned but we also want to move on with our lives. We want to have our second child and I am not willing to put that on hold any longer! haha

Our date is in April 2021 and we're going to keep the date for the ceremony. We're figuring out what the heck to do with our reception. It's painful to think about decorating a huge hall... only for 30-50 guests. That paired with other restrictions made me think of having an intimate dinner reception instead. Who knows whether the dinner will happen on our intended date or if it needs to be pushed back, but I think that's what we're thinking of for April.

View quoted message Oh man girl I feel the same way! Our wedding was supposed to be in August and I was so shattered when we had to pull the plug and postpone. Ever since that and especially towards the end of the year I've felt like I lost the magic of anything related to weddings. I'll have random bursts of excitement and then I feel demotivated again. Please don't cancel entirely! Think of a plan B even if it's just something super private where it's just you, your future hubby and an officiant or priest. At the end of the day what matters is that you have each other and you will build a life together ❤️

My bridal shower is in May and my wedding is in July. We decided that we are going to go through with everything regardless of the restrictions. Even with this variant that just came out it has been confirmed that the vaccine will be able to cover it. I truly believe that by the summer months that restrictions will lessen and all of us will be able to have the weddings we planned. The key for me is to continously remain positive and pray for the best, unfortunately non of us know the future so staying positive and planning as normal has kept me going! The best of luck to everyone ❤

I signed onto this today to see how brides were feeling and this is literally what I am going through. Our wedding is May 22 2021 and it has already been moved a year from May 30th 2020. I was positive it would be a bit better for our wedding but now I am feeling it will get cancelled again. I am at the point of not caring at all anymore. People ask me about the wedding and I have no interest in discussing it or preparing for it because I don't want the disappointed again. We were one month out last year when we had to postpone an entire year.


I was just thinking I need to reorder my invites and start organizing stuff but I have no desire or interest because I don't think it will happen. I am so close to just cancelling it all and not having a wedding at all.

My bridal shower is at the end of May and my wedding at the end of June. I was feeling a bit more positive until the news about a variant came out. I'm in a similar situation. We aren't postponing again but I feel pretty down and I don't know how to continue planning with so many unknowns.

I would still order the amount of invites you need (perhaps add a few extras) so that if you can have all the guests you want, you have the invites... if not than you lose a bit of money but at least you were prepared

One of my friends is getting married in May 2021 regardless of what the restrictions are. That means if they can only have the legal ceremony and not the reception, so be it.

I personally would not go over 50 people to be cautious. For most couples whose dates are in a questionable time period, what they've done is make a few guest lists: 5 people who are essential to the wedding (couple, officiant, two witnesses), another 5 people who HAVE to be there (if restrictions allow) to make 10 (indoor red zone restrictions), another 15 for the ones they would LOVE to be there to make it 25 people (outdoor red zone), another 25 for friends and extended family to make 50 (indoor orange zone). You can try to aim for more than 50 up to 100 but you would have to bet on your date allowing your wedding to be outdoors (risky in May, with rain and all) and your region to be in Orange (unlikely since Vaughan borders Toronto and Peel).

Don't forget, your vendors like officiant and photographer count toward the gathering limits so make sure you factor that in. If you're using a staffed venue (banquet hall, restaurant) then the staff of the venue (waiters, bartenders) don't count but those you hire externally still do.