Massive family! Only 200 person venue!

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View quoted message That is the idea, if a family member doesn't respond by the rsvp date on the card they lost their spot. Trying to track down 95 people would be hard to do and as I've mentioned before his family being the way it is the adult only part of it will mean a lot won't attend. Our friends are aware that we are sending out the family invites first then a month or so later we will send out the friend ones. Seems like it's a little harsh but at the end of the day more of my friends being there would make us both happy. To me I don't enjoy the obligatory family invites but to him there are necessary so we agreed this might be the best way to go about it!

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I come from a big family and my FH not so much. I think family batched invites And rsvp dates are a great idea, though you risk hurting the feelings of those getting the second or third round of invites. In hindsight I wish we had done batched invites.

Q: If someone from the first round doesn’t rsvp by the deadline does that mean they lose their spot?

Personally I’m in the same boat, being that 75% of our weddingn guests are my fiancé’s family. We sent out our invites to everyone and once the deadline is passed we will contact those who did not answer (we can’t assume they’re a no - sometimes people forget to reply or lose the reply card). After we get our numbers, we will look into inviting other people we wanted there.

Oooh, great idea. Get your invites out early, though! Unless your friend won't mind a bit of a "last-minute" invite (only a few months notice). Moat venues don't need final numbers until two weeks out (or so). I might use this myself! I have such a big family and I feel like I'm missing so many people, but my venue is pretty small so I'm limited.

We are actually in the opposite situation as you! FH wanted a small destination wedding, and I wanted the traditional wedding. So we are having a small traditional wedding and capping it at just immediate -ish family.

Give your self enough time after the first batch has come back that you are not rushing around for final numbers.

Although we are only sending out one batch, I am hoping to have all RSVP's back by the first week of September. Give yourself a good couple weeks!

Congrats on your engagement as well! We chose October 5th cause our birthdays are also both on the 5th as well! Mine December his June! Also thank you for responding to me. I am new to wedding wire and can't even figure out how to navigate super well yet! That's a good idea and a great timeline as well!

1. Congrats on the engagement and welcome to the WW community!

2. I LOVE the date you have chosen - not bias at all lol hey there date twin

3. That's what we will be doing! We plan on sending out the first batch of invitations at the 5 month mark (May 5thish) and then need them to let us know by the 4 month mark (June 5thsih) because once that day hits we are sending out batch #2 like a week later and requesting that they RSVP by the 3.5 month mark (July20thish). The reason we are putting them out at those times are because our venue is 45 min. outside the city and my entire Dad's side of the family is all from up North about 4 hours away and then the 45 out of the city. And we plan on having a wedding shower invite in there that will be dated for some time in August.