Maid of Honour Troubles

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I'm not like that either, so I know it's tough! But it sometimes is for the best.

Having the MOH to be standing as a bridesmaid would not make her better to help out any better for you. Let her attend your wedding as a guest and have less stress about it and keeping your cost less.

Its not worth going through anymore issues with her.

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That's what I was thinking as well, I'm just going to have to come up with a nice way of telling her now ... Lol. I always hate burning any bridges, just not who I am as a person!!

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Ah gotcha! Definitely sounds like the unreliable type but I'm glad you got to talk with her about it.

If I was in your shoes, I'd be inclined to just have her at your wedding as a guest, just because I can see her using the same excuses as a bridesmaid.

View quoted message To sum it up shortly, she has not been helping with anything to do with the wedding, since I’ve asked her to be my MOH five months ago, we have not met up once to start planning things together and every time I have asked her to meet up she has cancelled with me last minute .. Most of the time due to “drinking or partying too much” that day.. which she is stating is not in her control ... Additionally, we only live 20 min away from each other .. I am just feeling insecure about having to do everything on my own and get the feeling she is not reliable. When we had our talk, she told me I basically just have to tell her when and where to show up ..

I agree with what's been said, since we don't know what the issues with your MOH were, it's hard to advise you on what to do. If the issues were her taking charge/other MOH specific troubles, I would say make her a bridesmaid instead and promote on of your existing bridesmaids to MOH.

If the problems were about her not attending wedding party events, not ordering her dress, any problems you'd have with any of your bridesmaid, etc., then I would invite her to the wedding as a guest only.

As Tori has stated that we don't know the issues, but my feelings are that if you needed her to step away from the role of MOH then I would think that the same issues would be there if she was a bridesmaid. So I think it's best that she comes as a guest.

If she has already bought her dress, I would just keep her as a bridesmaid, and have someone else in the wedding party step up as MOH. If she has not purchased her dress, you could ask her to be just a guest, but still include her in some of the wedding events, without having to be the one planning it.

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I'm with Becky on this - it seems rather drastic to boot her from everything entirely (but of course we are unaware of what the troubles with her were).

If they are drastic enough that you are not wanting her in the wedding party at all then I would say that it's bad enough that you should maybe just break up the friendship all together. Clean and easy.

Would it be possible to promote one of the bridesmaids you have instead? That way can still keep her. If its just not something you want, just offer for that girl to buy her dress if shes already bought it.

Btw really sorry to hear it has came to this but glad you figured out early enough!

I would just ask her to attend the wedding as a guest.

Has she purchased her dress yet?