Maid of honour trouble

Seems like this is the norm lately. I too had issues with my MOH. She didn't come to my stag and doe and gave excuses as to why she couldn't come (which was BS) and for months previous to it so she started getting distant and we couldn't talk wedding at all because she was stressed about being in her brothers wedding party and "isn't that into weddings". The funny thing is whenever we did get together (which was maybe once every 3-4 months) she would talk about the day her and her bf get engaged. It should be a jealousy thing.. I've never really asked because I don't care to know. Anyway, we ended up having a falling out and not talking for a while then put our crap aside and fixed everything. Maybe you just need to call her out on being the way she is. It kinda makes people realize how they're being and straighten up a bit. Good luck.

I think you just need to talk to her and explain things and figure out why she is jealous of your other friendship and how that is effecting her "motivation" to be involved.

My MOH and both my bridesmaids aren't really involved in any way with helping me with my wedding. My MOH is in 3rd year college and my 2 bridesmaids both have very young children. One of them has another on the way, the other gets married the month before me. I love my girls, and I wish they could be more involved, but they've all told me that they really can't be. These girls mean a lot to me, so I've had to accept it and let it go.

View quoted message I agree 100% but get this done ASAP cause if you need to replace her it’ll be easier to find someone else to do the job.

Sometimes people don't know what their role should be in the wedding party. Offer to see her in person and the wedding will come up naturally. Take that opportunity to gentley talk about your vision for that day and what you need her to help with. If she starts to look overwhelmed then come with a compromise and see what she can handle and what you can delegate to other people.