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Elizabeth
Newbie October 2023 Alberta

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Elizabeth, on July 28, 2022 at 11:35 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 8
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Getting married next year in October and I feel so lost and confused. I don't have a very good relationship with my mom or dad and I feel like im doing everything alone without being able to ask my parents any questions or to have them help me out with ideas or planning.

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Latest activity by Rachay, on August 8, 2022 at 03:02
  • Rachay
    Curious August 2022 Ontario
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    I'm sorry to hear that. I agree that you should use the forums on this site. Everyone gives such good advice and can help you hash out your ideas.


    Do you have any friends or other family members that have been married before, I actually got a lot of advice from then versus my mom, and it was super helpful. Wedding planner can be super expensive (I opted out and it stressed me out lol) but I do recommend at least a day of coordinator..less expensive but super helpful
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  • Jamie
    Newbie June 2022 Ontario
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    I agree, ask questions on this site and you will get lots of help. Coordinators can be expensive but I really recommend a "Day of" coordinator. They are less expensive and usually begin with you a month before your wedding and what your vision has been they can help make it a reality. Also they will take care of all the things you shouldn't be worrying about on the day of,,,your wedding day. So start planning by touching base with people here, also you have a great resource for finding venders in your area. Pinterest can help you with many ideas as well. Marketplace on facebook is a great place to purchase decor items inexpensively. JJSHOUSE is a website you can purchase beautiful dresses for a fraction of the cost you would pay at a bridal store, plus they have many other things too. Check it out! Your not alone, you have a large community of brides to be, and brides who now are,, on here. Its normal to feel lost at first. Think about what you want, and how to make it happen. You will do great!

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  • Kelsey
    Frequent user August 2022 Alberta
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    That's so hard. I'm sorry you're going through that. All of us here are happy to help with anything you need. Getting a coordinator may be a good move for you to have someone you can always talk to and bounce ideas off of as well. Do you have any members of your wedding party who would help you?
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  • Audrey
    Frequent user July 2022 Ontario
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    Aw I'm sorry you're feeling like that. I can relate to some extent, as my mother didn't really have a traditional wedding, and is not really into that kind of thing. It never even crossed my mind to reach out to her for advice or anything like that. I also don't have a sister. I had a small bridal party with just MoH and one bridesmaid, my 2 besties, and between them they were a great team. They were the ones I went to with questions, or to share my excitement about something I had planned or created. And of course although I pulled together about 80% of the wedding plans, I did recruit my FH and let him know that it was important to me that he was involved and not just taking orders from me. He took his tasks to heart and helped with decision making etc. So between them, I never felt alone with it, and it added to the joy of planning.

    Do you have a bridal party who you can get more involved? Will your FH get into it with you? Let your closest friends know you're feeling lonely with it and ask them for their support. I'm sure they will be more than happy to help and make sure that you enjoy your wedding planning experience.

    And to echo what Ryanne said, this community is quite active and a great place to share your plans and ask for advice.

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  • Elizabeth
    Newbie October 2023 Alberta
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    I would love to by since I had my baby in April mt IL’s have been really pushing and over stepping boundaries (mostly my MIL) and I stood ground and now she basically hates me and my FIL takes her side but when she’s not around he’s on mine and my man’s side.
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  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
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    Its tough to feel alone when your parents aren't around to give and feedback or answer questions you have for your own wedding. The next best thing is your in laws to count on for the support and being your other parents to get the answers you want and opinions on matters that are more to you and the wedding.
    My husband and his brother lost their parents while growing up and not to be there when we got married or to even meet them our time. He too has my parents as his and not shy now to call them mom and dad when he talks and sees them. Think of your FHs parents as yours when now and when you get married. Its a great feeling to know they are there for you and him.
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  • Carine
    Featured September 2023 Ontario
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    I somewhat know how you feel, I lost my mom at a young age, and I am so grateful that I get along with his mom, My dad doesn't seem to excited about the wedding, his answers are save money, are you saving money. I respond to him well if there's no money then there's no wedding, it's not like he's paying for it. I've included my FMIL and gone to her for so many ideas and questions. I've also relied on my bridal team. We at Wedding Wire are also here to help and try to answer questions you may have. You are not alone. Smiley smile

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  • Rayanne
    Featured June 2022 Ontario
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    Is there someone else you are close to? If you ever need to vent or ask questions this site has so many helpful friendly people who are willing to give lots of different good advice. So many times I read answers to questions that I never would have thought about. We're all here to help where we can. Good luck to you. What are you working on right now?
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