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For me it was a no brainer who 2 people in my wedding party would be (my best friend of 17 years and my other best friend of 15 years). the 17 year BF is my MOH. and then 15 year BF is helping out as my MOH lives in new jersey.

I struggled with the other. I wanted my 2 cousins in it and another really really good friend (she is both mine and my FH's good friend. her husband helped my FH pick out my engagement ring and he is in our wedding party too). so I was going to do 5. but my FH was ADAMANT that we have even numbers on each side and he just preferred the look of 4 on each side. he has not expressed strong opinions on most wedding things. so I gave in.

I ended up picking that friend and another friend. as I couldn't just pick 1 cousin (they are sisters) and I have my 2 cousins doing some other things ceremony wise. I went with people that have been in my life not necessarily a long time (but 3 of the 4 are 10+ years). but people that are consistently in my life. and who I go to when I need help/advice/someone to listen to. and these 4 girls were it.

I chose my (only) sister, Taylor as my MOH and then my best friend, Nicole as a bridesmaid. I figure that my sister will be in my life forever but who knows how long a friend will last -especially seeing as how my FH is now my bestest friend.

As for the rest of the bridal party - I started with who I hang out with the most and actually like. this would equate to my friend Taylor and my FH's cousin Crystal. Then I had just one more spot to fill as my FH is having 5 on his side (he is having 2 Best men though). In this case I then considered the S/O's of his wedding party side and chose Brianna as she is reliable, organized, and most of all I would love to have her as a closer friend down the line.

Avoid the flakes even if they flake out on the small things, avoid those who tend to make things about themselves, and avoid anybody that doesn't feel comfortable in the spot light.

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I have 4 girls and my FH only has 3. They don't have to be balanced sides

View quoted message I was thinking 7 girls total. But it seems like a lot to me. But I don't know how to make it smaller. My man would only have 6 I believe.

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I would still ask her, especially if you couldn't imagine her there! If she wants to do it, you and her could find a way to make it work. How many ladies are you thinking of having in your party? Most girls will be honoured to be a bridesmaid!

View quoted message Thanks I have a friend in mind but her finances are extremely tight, she lives in a different city, doesn't drive. I couldn't imagine her not in my wedding, I'm just conflicted on who I should ask. I don't want to step on any toes from asking someone over someone else.

If you couldn't imagine your wedding without them by your side, they should be in your party! Flakey people should be avoided since they could flake out on events/important appointments, super dramatic or people who try to make your wedding about them should be avoided as well.

My MOH is my closest friend, I originally had 2 picked out and was going to make them Co-MOHs, but one backed out since her life is chaotic right now but is still a bridesmaid. If you have a few ladies in mind for MOH, ask yourself if they are in a good life position to handle MOH responsibilities.

A close friend or relative who you want to be up there with you on your big day! Someone who's avaiable if needed and wants to be your MOH too! Talk to them first I wouldnt just drop it on someone first!
I have a close friend I've known for over half my life but she straight up told me she would be a bridesmaid but didnt want the responsibility of MOH haha! Worked well! Another one of my super close friends I've known for less time but she was so into being MOH!

Choose who is close to you personally and will be there to help when in need.

Besides thinking of family being 1 1/2 hours away, we considered friends that were at work as best friends and my MOH was moving. I then chose another co worker of my husbands workplace.