Is it crazy that I have been looking at wedding stuff and buying wedding planning books even though I haven’t been engaged yet? Or has anyone done this ? This has been a dream of mine since I was little. Now that I have found the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with and marry, my brain is going “wedding planning time!”
I've been following A Practical Wedding Planner which was recommended by one of my friends. I got this from Amazon and it seems like a good option for me, although there are a variety of other well-reviewed books available there. This has helped me to finalize a theme for my wedding. I have discussed the ideas which I got from these books with my wedding venue organizers to finalize everything about the wedding. You can also refer to this.
I 100% started planning before we were engaged. In fact, my partner and I have been together for 8 years so in year 7 I started planning. I also used to plan weddings so I already knew some of the stuff I wanted.
I already knew what we wanted and started figuring out a whole bunch of logistics. I already booked my venue for 2023. Call me crazy but I am a planner
The books are helpful to give suggestions and hints to what to look for when planning though the cost/percentage of things sorted may not be exact for all couples. Always look at 3 top vendors which services do appeal to you and the budget your aiming to get the best deal to pick the vendor.
Venues would be a good start to know what is being offered in their packages and what is extra to consider to add on cost wise. A guest list that would be started to know the count is helpful too for the coordinator to know what your looking to have on your special day. Also ask about vendors they work with and see their reviews based on other couples who have used their services at the venue.
This is not to knock you down from your wedding high, but I recommend to tread cautiously and not to be too overzealous on committing to or booking things too early. Two years is a long time and things change like trends and technology (look at live streaming technology now vs pre-2020). There's also a risk when you lock in money to vendors too early because what if they go out of business. They could be doing great now but who knows what decisions they'll make in the next two years that can affect them.
I started looking and purchasing things right after we got engaged in 2017 for our 2020 wedding. I don't think it's too early to start looking to see what you like and if things are on sale even better! Just make sure that if you do start buying things, that you have room to store things until the big day. We've had to postpone twice now and everything has been stored in our basement until our wedding day next year
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My dad doesn’t even know about the engagement so when I go over to my parents house I have to read my wedding books in the privacy of my own room lol. I’m a girl where I like to have everything nearly perfect but will not become a bridezilla.