Let's Talk about the Morning of...

The morning of my wedding I just had my bridal party and mum with me. A few family members came and went which I didn't mind but I also kind of didn't have a choice as I was getting ready in my uncle's house and people were staying there and needed stuff.

I think you should go with what you makes you comfortable. If you don't want all the people around then that's ok.

Portuguese families do that as well however not so much anymore. I don't think you should feel pressured at all. We also used to have catered food between the church and the hall so guests would have someplace to go and eat something before the reception. But that's not a big thing anymore either. We are staying at a hotel the night before and the day of, and it's just the bridal party and immediate family.

I plan to just have my bridal party, my daughter, and my mom. Also hair and make up and photographer / videographer.

It's your day they will understand that you'll want privacy especially on such a big day.

The morning of my fiance and I will wake up together, currently planning to spend the night together so that we are comfortable. We are planning to have a full wedding party breakfast then we will seperate into seperate rooms, guys and girls. Then probably have some visits from parents but majority of the time will be just me and my 4 girls and my hairstylist. If someone just showed up to see me while I was getting ready, this never happen for me but if it did I would have one of my girls tell them to leave. Just express to everyone that you want a easy, simple relaxing morning and they should respect that.

I agree that this time is special and I want to spend it with the most important people to me and be able to focus on them.

I know I'll also be so nervous the day of, and the thought of people coming and going and disrupting stresses me out!

We'll be getting ready at my house with my 4 bridesmaids and my mom. Those are the only people I really want to see before the wedding.

I'm just having the bridal party and the moms.

I don’t want a bunch of people around the morning of they can wait until the wedding to see me lol it’ll just be my bridal party, my mom and FMIL.

Oh wow - that sounds crazy!!

I got ready with just the moms and my bridesmaids, but with the number I’d vendors there it almost doubled the group! We had 7 people on our hair and makeup team, my wedding planner, two photographers, and two videographers.

I’d try to have your mom kindly spread the word that you’re “excited to see everyone at the reception”, and remind her that you’ll be too busy with logistics and hair and makeup and pictures before the ceremony to see anyone!

I'm having the entire bridal party, my dad and a couple of random people all getting ready at our home. It's easiest there. And then my fiance will come to the house for photos with our dogs.

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That sounds fair. My dad is only going to arrive in the car we are driving to the church in...We will get to have our own father daughter moment during our private car ride which is nice!

I'm having my bridal party, my mom, FMIL and my grandma. I have told my dad that he is not allowed to see me until it is time to escort me down the aisle because I want the time to relax and not be overwhelmed. A lot of people are aware of the nerves before the ceremony and if I'm slightly freaking out I don't want to have to entertain my family on top of that. So far no one is upset, I thought my aunts would be for sure but they understand.

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I KNOW RIGHT!!

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I honestly don't understand how some people can have that many people in their parties. I don't even like that many people! hahaha

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It's just so hard to coordinate with so many people and then it becomes to hectic...it becomes less about you and your day and too much stress on other things that don't even matter!!!

1-3 is perfect!!!!!!! I have friends who have 7 bridesmaids! I don't understand lol

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I 100% agree! I only wanted to have one but he insisted on more lol

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Me too! I have three girls and a flower girl. It is so much better keeping it small and intimate!!

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I have three girls and my flower girl (my daughter). However, his mother and sister are having their hair and makeup done by a friend of theirs that is traveling down with them so it will be just myself, 2 bridesmaids, and my flower girl at the hair salon.

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How big is your bridal party? This sounds exactly like what we would be doing!

I'm also a private person so we will have just the bridal party and mothers in my hotel room. I assume that because my fiancé is close to his family that his mom and sister, who is my bridesmaid, will actually end up at our place the day of before the ceremony to visit, which I'm okay with.

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So nice to know that I am not alone in how I feel!!!!

I totally agree. I too plan on doing a little workout and stretch the morning of. It is a great way to relax and start every day! It is really great to relate to others! Thank you for sharing

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Great excuse to use! I will definitely have my mom help explain and use that line if need be!!!

Thanks!!

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Absolutely I completely agree with you! I will definitely make sure to have my mom and family on board.

I'm totally with you on that one!!!
I don't have a wedding party, so my 'morning of' will be pretty quiet. I think I'll be doing yoga or another physical activity with my best friend, to burn off any stress or steam. Then I think it'll just be my best friend, my parents and whoever is doing our hair/makeup. Large social settings just drain me, so I want the morning to mentally prepare for the rest of the day, especially since it'll be focused on my FH and I.

I come from a large Scottish family, but only my bridal party, my nieces, my mom (and possibly my dad), and my grandmother (and of course, the photographer, makeup and hair stylists!) will likely be coming in the morning to get ready. That's already going to be 13 or 14 people in the hotel suite - that's enough! None of my other friends or family will expect to see me before the wedding ceremony.

I'd talk with your mom, and maybe get her to help talk with the rest of your family - explain that you'd like to have a quiet morning before the big celebration. Maybe use the excuse "I want my entrance at the church to be the first time EVERYONE sees me."?

I am going to have my wedding party and my mom and sisters. That would be too much for me if lots came in and out and this time is supposed to be relaxing! specially with your girls, if your mom is understanding and your family sees that they should be understanding as well.