Last name change or no?

Yes I will be taking my wife’s last name

I always wanted to take the last name of who I would marry but never realized all the paperwork that came with it. So I never took his last name but I so sign christmas cards birthday cards with his last name.

As Latin Americans it also hard he has two last names I have two last names which one would I even take?

I will be changing mine! Gone will be the days of me having to spell my surname out!

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Tell me about it! And that's cute, good for you

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Nice! What made you guys go with yours and not hers? do you think whatever the actual last name is has to do with it?

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Good for you! So he kept his name and you hyphenated? Just curious and you do not have to answer but if you had children, would you want them to hyphenate or no? I think it's so cool people are much more open to doing different things with names now

I have never changed my name legally, for the First or Second Marriage. I have assumed my hubby's last name. The paperwork alone is not worth it IMO.

Natalie will be changing her last name to mine. She already uses my last name professionally.

I was torn up until our wedding day.

I really love my last name, I don't know why but I am very attached to it. But I also wanted to share the same last name as my husband.

Husband was a bit reluctant for me to hyphenate my last name, worried about it being a mouthful lol.

In the end, i decided to have both and I absolutely love it.

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Cool mix you guys have going on : )

and yes the paperwork! lol : | So interesting about Greece, I did not know that.

Keeping my original last name. Like you said, it’s not common in most cultures. I’m half south Asian, half Central American and partner is South American. It is very uncommon for women to change their last names in our cultures. I did ask FI if he cared since it is common in Canada, he took one glance at the paperwork and said absolutely not worth it haha. So, going the traditional route and not changing it.

A friend of his who is Greek just told us that apparently in Greece you are not permitted to change your last name which was unheard of to me. I always assumed it was a choice and preference change it or not.

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Oh absolutely, there was no doubt in my mind

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Nice! Did you feel from the beginning that you wanted to take his last name?

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That is such a great point, it really is a lot of your partners family history. Happy you were able to stick to what felt good for you and your husband was supportive of that!

I also have girlfriends who are engaged/who have tied the knot in their 30s who were more open to keeping their last name.

I changed my last name

Hi Kate! I find this topic interesting, it has changed a lot over the years. When I was younger I always thought I would take my husbands name, but now that I am older, it feels strange. It isn't my husbands name really, it is his dads, and his dads dads, and so on. It represents their family history. I have my own identity and family history that I don't want just being erased. Myself and my brothers are also the only ones who can pass our family name on, and that is important to my dad, so I would like to do that if I can (my brothers may not end up with kids).

So, long story short, I will be hyphenating (the lazy way, as things expire and need to be renewed), because I am expanding my family, and any future kids will have the same last name as me. As you said above, I want to share a name with kids we may have, and my husband is happy with that too.

One thing I have noticed from friends and find interesting is the ones who married younger, high school sweethearts, early 20's type deal, all changed their names, but those that married later on have either kept their own or hyphenated, so it seems like this is a very recently growing trend.