Last minute guest change

I ended up talking to mine and she is coming solo.. crisis averted for me. Guest lists are so hard !!!! I get yours too, and if it's a plus one then yeah - technically they can bring whoever they want. Thanks.. I was starting to feel like I was being dramatic, but that's how I feel.. it's a small wedding so I don't want people I don't really know or care about to come.

Eh. I'm a little stumped too. The stubborn person in my life is saying "NO, the plus-one is just for the woman's husband!", but then there's the other part of me who is letting a friend (female) bring her female friend as her plus-one* since she's not ready to bring her boyfriend (they haven't been dating long enough for her to be comfortable to bring him). BUT, if this was a married friend, I don't think I'd allow them to substitute their husband for someone else. It's a weird situation and especially since your wedding is small, I don't think I'd let her do that.

* This friend was getting a plus-one regardless of her relationship status

Honestly a lot of my guests and the people I didn't invite that are all from work will know we don't hang out. I really don't think people will be bent about it, but I still feel kind of bad. We also didn't invite anyone with a guest or plus one. Anyone who is single received an invite addressed only to them because we didn't want randoms at our wedding since it's smallish and intimate. She isn't a random, I do know her, but if I wanted her there I would have invited her in the first place.. I definitely do think I am thinking too much about it.. but I don't know. I'm still on the fence about feeling uneasy with the whole thing.

Ahhhh I know.. I feel like I was unintentionally taken advantage of.

I will have another conversation I think just to see. We didn't address any invites with guest or plus one because we didn't want strangers there... so it is going against that.

That is horrible what happened at your wedding. and no gift! that is also my fear if I am being completely honest... we are paying $150 a person so now someone is coming as a stand in - I just hope you will still be courteous enough to give us a gift. It sounds selfish, but weddings are expensive.

The tendency to say yes when drunk and then realizing making that comment is huge.

If you're not comfortable with the idea of having another guest of your friend attend since the names were specific on the invitation, don't break the rule and have her come alone. She doesn't feel the need to come as your guest not knowing the others then its on her to stay home.

You have done everything needed and to what you wanted this far. You want people that are fun and supporting to be at your wedding. Cancel out the ones you don't know or don't feel comfortable around due to their nature.

Last minute guest was invited by my husband whom I didn't want and he felt the opposite and not a word said to her all day. I felt attacked in that way personally and don't want that feeling upon you regretting saying yes. Another guest who was supposed to come alone, decided to text a MOH and tell her his boyfriend is coming and mom showed up too for dinner. Talk about being unconceded and no gift too. He was never spoken to after the fact. Don't let these things be taken upon your advantage being the person you are as it does happen at times.

I would say that you have nothing to worry about! Even with having a small wedding you can't say that all of your guests will just know that you guys don't hang out all the time anyway right? I do like the idea that Emily put out of "Guest" though. At the same time I have a couple people coming to my wedding (hopefully - waiting on RSVP's) that I gave them a plus one and will just be asking for their name when they do RSVP. Don't think too much into it - besides, it's your wedding and not any of theirs.

That was my initial thought too.. if we had put "and guest" and really anyone could have come... ok, that makes me feel better. I figured I was over reacting, I just woke up today and started feeling uneasy about it all.. Thank you !!!!

If the sister is your friends plus one then its not up to you to feel bad about not inviting other people over her.

I understand she Is standing in her the friends husband but still to me I would consider that a plus one guest and you cant really controle who everyone brings as a plus one.

I also feel like I kind of need to say - the first time this was mentioned to me was at my shower when I was a little drunk and very overwhelmed so I would have said yes to anything...