Large families. Why is your wedding as big or small as it is?

Our wedding is small for the fact that I have a more outgoing family. A lot of my family isn't invited for the sake of them causing problems and making it an un-enjoyable experience. Otherwise it would be a HUGE wedding!

Yes I am Nelly's fiancee. It is great that we all get along and havr gotten along for years, even our parents and grandparents have become friends and hang out and go out with each other. We all enjoy BBQs and family picnics and generally spending time together. We're thinking of having 4 children, we just bought a house in a new subdivision with 5 bedrooms.

Hi Fernando! Welcome to the community!!

Are you Nelly's fiancé?? It's so amazing to have you both participating in the community!

It's so great that all of you guys can get along! You're so lucky!! I'm sure your siblings must have helped you a lot with your preparations! Did they give you good advice?

OMG! Your family is growing so much! There must such a good family spirit in both your families!!

Will you keep the tradition and have a big family too?

What are your families' favourite get together activity? BBQs? Dancing?

Hi Melissa

I think it's amazing that you're going for something that is true to both of you and both of your personnalities! That's what a wedding's for. It should represent who you are as people and I'm sure you're loved ones will also appreciate spending some quality time with you on that special day.

I'd love to see what you think in these discussions! I'm sure you're relationship must be very authentic and I'm sure you're wedding will be too

What's the most important for the both of you on your wedding day?

What is your favourite type of food to eat together?

Anything making you shy or nervous about your wedding day?

I like that you're doing this in 3 steps! That's quite unique!

What kind of food or restaurants are you thinking of going for, for the more intimate reception?

Yes we all get along not only my siblings and in-laws but also my fiancee with my siblings and their spouses. I also get along with all of his siblings and their spouses.Yes 6 are married and 4 have children. My fiancee has 9 married and 7 have children or are expecting.The advantage is a huge support system.Disadvantage time alone doesn't happen

Wow! That is an impressivley big family Nelly!!

I'm sure it must be great for support, there must always be someone there for you Any of your brothers and sisters already married?

I have a big family too since my grandma's family were 24 brothers and sisters. We once had to rent a whole school for a family reunion. Do all of you get along?

I really like your discussion, it inspired me to create this one this morning

How much is your family involved in your wedding planning?

What do you think are the advantages or disadvantages of having such a big family?

Sounds good but I would miss not having everyone with us on our special day, so we invited everyone

And I thought I had a large family! My mom has 12 brothers and sister (so many cousins on that side) and my Fiance's dad has 6 siblings!

I can certainly see how our guest list would get very long, very fast.

We have decided to go the small, intimate route for our ceremony. We are a lively, couple, but we don't enjoy being the focus of attention, and I am honestly a bit put off by the pop and ceremony of traditional weddings. We are doing a park ceremony with our parents, siblings and grandparents only, followed by a dinner at a fine restaurant (undetermined as of now). Only 14 people including the officiant and ourselves will be a part of that.

Late in the evening we are having a cocktail and hors d'ourves "reception" for extended family and friends. Even the list for this is fairly limited at 85-100 people, almost all family. We don't want the fuss of sit down dinner, speeches and other traditions, so we have decided a dance party is more our style. A Father & Daughter dance means a lot to my dad, so we will be including that.

Our choices are just based on perference, and being true to who we are as a couple. Fun loving, but ultimately private people.