Kids matching wedding party

Just tell her that you don't want the kids to be confused for members of the wedding party, and that you don't want them to be matching. Hopefully she understands.

I agree with everyone else, let her know that you don't want them matching exactly with the wedding party. Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel about it.

There is no reason for the kids to match the wedding party so she should be ok with it, plus its your day and if you and your FH don't want that then she should respect it. Especially if you are already making exceptions for her.

I think I agree with where you are coming from - I also like what the other ladies have suggested of complimentary outfits but not matching. Of course, me being me, I would have my FH relay this with me so she knows we BOTH feel this way.

At the end of the day it shouldn't be a big deal to her, but feel free to play the "we're already making the exception for the no kid wedding - is there any way we could maybe not have them match but maybe just compliment instead?" it's a question rather than a demand even though it is a demand.

I agree with going shopping with her and look for something that compliments rather than matches the wedding party. I also like the idea of having them match each other, but not the wedding party.

I agree. offer to help her look for something that will go with the bridal party but not match.