July/august/september guest numbers

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Case numbers last summer improved dramatically, remember? I'm sure that's going to happen again this year, moving out of flu season.

View quoted message As of right now yes we are planning to. As much as I don't want to. We all thought this summer would be fine but yet if it's not it's hard to say when will he tto postpone again. Plus I am just exhausted of the waiting and wondering. So many have still gotten married and all the pictures and videos I've seen they still seem to be beautiful.

View quoted message Are you planning on going ahead of the restrictions include no dancing, masks when not at tables, etc? We postponed from last year and feel like we are in the same boat all over again.

View quoted message Right? One is just sort of at that point where we just want to be married! I haven't hired the videographer but I've narrowed it down to a few now. But I find now it's something I have to have..


And that's the thing. The unknown makes it even harder. One moment it seems to be looking good and not so much the next.

Our wedding has been postponed twice and is now schedule for June 6th, 2021. We are fed up and getting married no matter what! All we are hoping for is that the church will be able to open for our wedding. We are in Toronto so I feel that we will be the last to have things open up. I think you may be okay in Sask to have a decent sized wedding by this summer! I know exactly what you are going through though - the unknown is killer and brings on exact feelings of last year! We have also not booked a videographer yet but we definitely will now, I am just waiting until we get a bit closer to our date and I'm not going to be picky about it anymore...I just want to have our wedding already lol.,

These times have changed everything for wedding planning for numbers and restrictions. Lots of couples including yourselves have not had it easy to reschedule dates with vendors and venue. Its always a tough call to make when you look at the final count to give at the end. This is where plan A does change to back up plan B with cut downs for intimate weddings and bigger celebrations held back for another date.

I do hope this summer works out for your guest list number to feel that excitement. Plan B intimate wedding will feel the same with just family and close friends if the changes do occur. I hope you all the best and your plans work out.

My fiance and I have whittled the number down to 65 invitees at this point. This is basically our families, along with our officiant, my best friend, and their SOs. Because some of the original 65 will be unable to come, we should be able to choose a few family friends, too.

Our wedding date is Sept 10, 2021 and we've limited our guest list to 50 hoping that things will go ahead unless we're still in lockdown... So our Plan A is whoever feels comfortable coming to the wedding can do so (likely not all 50 - we're hoping to make it as small as possible, as we're both extremely introverted). Plan B is in case the venue is closed, we have a backyard ceremony with only immediate family, and then have the reception with our 50 people when we can reschedule with the venue. But having Plan Cs and Ds is probably a good idea, especially if you're a planner and the guest list is larger. I hope your special day goes ahead in the way you want it to!

I am staying positive now that weddings in the summer will be more than 50. With these vaccines and all the provinces having a slight downturn in cases I believe we will see restrictions go down in March a bit and as the warmer weather comes it will get even better! I know in these times we must be realistic but I also believe we need to be optimistic and not lose hope!

View quoted message I’m hoping things just continue to improve. We really wanted a regular size wedding too. Making a list of 120 between the two of us was so hard. Choosing who to exclude is such an odd feeling. I never dreamed of such a tiny wedding but 50 or 100 is good enough in these times.. I want to have a big anniversary party for like our 5th anniversary or something. At least there’s zoom for people we can’t include in the wedding

View quoted message We have lists around that amount to. We need to re look at them as our 50 list is 58 for us. I don't know what 8 we could possibly cut... It's a bit of a struggle.. but we need to look. Unfortunately for us we don't even want to do just our parents and us. That is not what we had in mind for a wedding. But right now we are allowed 30 still but I hope it starts increasing in a few months. Honestly I'm just hoping to get to 75..

View quoted message My MOH and I have been saying they to. You keep saying we are just tired and exhausted too.

View quoted message I agree. It seems like there’s no end in sight and oddly I’m getting used to it, just feeling tired too!

Our wedding is July 17th.
We’ve made a list of 50, 70, 80-100, 101-120. We are planning as if it will be 100. But who knows so much could change before then. The wedding won’t be cancelled. It is just going to shrink according to law. I just hope our parents and siblings can be there. (Us + family + the marriage celebrant = 10)
We are hoping for 100 but we will be happy with 50 too

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It's crazy how so many of us thought this would be well behind us at some point in time. Back in March 2020, everyone thought we'd be okay in the summer. In the spring, everyone thought it would be okay by end of year. During the summer/fall, everyone thought we'd be okay in 2021. And now that we're in 2021...

I don't even feel frustrated anymore. I'm just tired.

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And now my job is done. lol

View quoted message Sounds like you’re on the right track my venue is technically closed so they haven’t responded to me today when I emailed them but I’m sure they will this week. We’ll all figure it out soon!

View quoted message Right? It's so hard to know how to move forward. I have emailed them and they are doing some reaching out to see what my options may be. In the meantime we have started making smaller lists as well that we need to review again.

View quoted message That’s exactly it, how do we move forward?! Definitely get in touch with your venue and see your options with them, and start making some smaller “back up” guest lists. That’s what I am in the process of doing.

View quoted message Our number hasn't increased from 30 here in Sask. Not even in the summer. We could shave it down to about 60 as the lowest to be able to really have our immediate families. But that doesn't even include plus ones.


I have been thinking the same as you. Our venue has a massive courtyard which is where our ceremony is at the gazebo. I was going to check with them that if we need or wanted to if outside may be a option.
Also same here. I was relieved and fine when we postponed but now I am stressed again. About big and little things because I just don't know how to move forward.

View quoted message Hahah vaccines becoming airborne!!! This made me laugh

I’m in Ontario and our guestlist is about 103 and we expected about 90. Now our new wedding date is July 2021 and we’re in the same boat and don’t know what to expect. We can shave it down to 70-75 ish but what if the limit is 50? I think that’s what it was last summer. I’m also in talks with our venue about moving the reception outdoors. Once we decided to postpone I felt relief and took a break from planning but now that it’s 6 months away I’m stressing all over again

View quoted message My venue told us in Ontario that their staff are not included in the numbers but anyone you hire outside count towards your numbers, photographer/assistant officiant, videographer.

I agree with Olivia! Definitely speak with your venue- see what they were allowed last year and make up lists based on that to help prepare.


I have a question for people making up their lists- have you included vendors I.e. photographers and videographers in your numbers?

View quoted message Sounds like you have thought all the aspects through. I hope it works out for you!

View quoted message We have made a few lists. Our lists are really minimal as is with who's included. Ideally if we could have 50-60 at least would be perfect. Or 75 and we could have a few friends that are not wedding party as well but 58 is our wedding party and all of our closest relatives without plus ones for those who are only dating less then a year.
I am 100% ok with reducing the guest list as long as we can get our important extended family in there. I hate to have hard feelings for inviting a couple cousins and not the others.

Our venue keeps saying they are really hopeful to see lots of restrictions lifted for summer weddings. So we will see. I wish it was easier to plan with the unknowns lol.

View quoted message I have been searching and so far for some one reasonably priced and decent quality we are already limited so I think it's something I will need to decide soon.

I am getting married July 31st and recently spoke with my venue and was told they are hopeful they will allow 100 guests but there's no guarantee, and they likely won't be able to accommodate more than that. Our current list is over 150. We are willing to decrease to 100, but we can't decrease more than that (we have large families -our rehearsal alone will be over 30 people and that's parents, grandparent, siblings, us, bridal party and bridal party spouses (no dates if they aren't married or engaged!)). If they can't accommodate, we will likely postpone.


What I would recommend is looking over your guest list and consider eliminating anyone who you haven't talked to in a year, anyone you don't know well, colleagues you don't see outside of work, dates for friends and family who are not in serious relationships (married, engaged, living together) and see what number you get. You may be surprised. Count those numbers and if the venue can't accommodate those numbers, consider postponing, if they can, get married!!A good rule is asking yourself this: will this guest "matter" in 5 years?I.e. if you have to cut them, will they still be supportive and be your friend in 5 years? If you left your job will you still speak to that colleague in 5 years (dig deep for this one - if you don't see them outside of work now, you likely won't).
Now, regarding your other concern with numbers and increasing if the venue allows more closer to the date: If the venue allows, say an extra 10 people last minute, and you want to extend those invites, I personally would start with a family member's date (aunt or uncle who would have been going solo, out of respect) and bridal party first. I understand everyone has different family situations, this is merely an example.

Im from Quebec and I have my wedding in July, I spoke to my hall, he is close to many other halls and many of them believe that with the vaccine roll-out this year they believe that weddings in the summer will be able to have at least minimum 100 people which is good news. I am supposed to have a wedding of 250, but last August and September the Quebec government allowed 250 people events such as weddings. So I am remaining hopeful that there may be a slight chance of having my original wedding plan. Regardless my fiance and I are going to get married, and having 100 people (mainly family and very close friends) for me is much better than nothing

My wedding isn’t until October, but we did receive an email from our venue saying we can have 30% capacity (they’re going by last seasons rules as of now) so we’re luckily allowed to have 90 for the ceremony and 50 for reception, wish those number were reversed but 🤷🏼‍♀️
I recommend reaching out to your venue and see what the guidelines were for them last season.
I have multiple guest lists made just in case. I’ve got my no restrictions list 90, 50, 25 and 10. I’m really thinking the vaccines will help, hopefully by summer restrictions will loosen up a bit!

Our original guest list is over 250. Now we won't go over 50 (unless vaccines become airborne and it starts raining on us).

I think you can wait for a videographer. They're not as in-demand as photographers and the last thing you need is to be tied up in another contract with so many uncertainties right now.