It's so stressful

Im stressing b/c my biggest crutch & primary support system isn't even home at the moment...3 mths & 20 days to go, and really all i want now is for us to have some quiet time together...

Hey Ashley, how are you coming along with your planning? Is there anything you need help/advice with? My wedding isn't until next August and I'm already super stressed, so I can just imagine how you're feeling.

I've found that (like everyone else said) make checklists of things to do either "this week" or "this month". Once you have everything planned out timeline-wise, you stop stressing about everything that needs to be done, and rather focus on a small list. I also agree about taking breaks and having a "no-wedding talk" day. It got to the point that wedding planning was consuming my entire life, so I decided that Mondays and Wednesdays I wouldn't do wedding planning/thinking (unless we have to meet with a vendor). I would also involve your groom as much as possible, they are great for talking sense into you

Make sure you use your support system. you have bridesmaids who are usually happy to help. what I found is that they do want to help but they need to be told what they can help with. It’s hard to loosen the reigns but it’s so beneficial! Best of luck!!

Don't panic!! Take a break if you need one!! Then get back to it, follow your checklist, and only focus on the next thing that needs to be done instead of evvverything that is still left to do!

I try my best to take little breaks, so I don’t drive myself crazy. But then I panic I’m not planning fast enough 🤷🏻‍♀️
Try and breathe, everything will turn out amazing !!!

I hear ya! It really starts to consume your life! I think it’s important to take a break for sure you’ll feel better after you do.

I would make a list of tasks and just tackle them one at a time. I would also give yourself some days where you don't do any planning because it can be so overwhelming and stressful.

I’m getting married next month, and I totally agree that everything can be stressful at times. The best advice I’ve heard is take things one step at a time. If you’re thinking about too many tasks at once, and trying to do everything at once, you will get overwhelmed. But if you say today I am going to focus on this task and only this task and do it well, it is much less stressful.

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I'm still over a year away but I am HUGELY organized and yes I agree making "due dates" is a great way to go!

And yes! Just breathe! Take a step back if you need to!

Go on a date with your fiance and try not to bring up any wedding things! Just enjoy each other and the engagement together! Have a nice relaxing evening out it'll make you feel better!

The day will be amazing no matter what! Things happen but it is about you two! If you are there that's all that matters!

Also an August bride. Yup didn't know how stressful everything gets. I think slowly chipping away is the way to go. The to do list on this website is helpful. I also take the time to do the fun stuff like looking up DIYs on Pinterest. Get support where you can. I get my fiancee's input and from my sisters when I'm stuck or not sure.

The best thing to do is breathe, and listen to your mind/body... take that break. Have a bubble bath, take a couple nights off!
I find the best way to calm myself down when I'm feeling overwhelmed by the amount of stuff to do, is make a list.... then prioritize what's on it, and write it again in order of importance... then one step at a time, chip away at it.
Maybe mark down "due dates" as well, it sounds strict, but it could also help to know some decisions don't need to be made yet, and you don't have to do everything at once.
The main thing to remember is: it's supposed to be a happy day, remind yourself of why you're getting married, and how you feel about your fiance. That always puts a smile on my face!

I’m getting married this August too and I totally get where your coming from! I’ve been stressed and having nightmares for the past 2 months. I wish there were some way to just pause everything and take a breather! I hope you get that much needed break!!