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Lynnie
WeddingWire Admin October 2016 North Carolina

Is your fiancé(e) hands on or hands off?

Lynnie, on July 30, 2019 at 13:26 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 16

How involved is your fiancé(e) with planning your wedding? Are they more hands on or hands off with wedding details and decisions?


Is your fiancé(e) hands on or hands off? 1

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Latest activity by Ashley, on August 21, 2019 at 15:05
  • Ashley
    VIP August 2020 Ontario
    Ashley ·
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    Oh mine has an opinion on everything. i like the long candles, i like this centrepeice etc loll

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  • R
    Devoted November 2019 Quebec
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    Hands off and 10 ft away!! "Should we do real or fake flowers for the centerpeice?" "Yes!" "Which ones?" "Either" like just give me an opinion. He's never been hands on with planning tho so I'm not suprised. Thank god for my mom a MOH to run things by or id go crazy. Plus I don't mind doing it but every once in a while I give him a task for him to feel incld. Even if he doesnt want to be lol
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  • Rayanne
    Master June 2022 Ontario
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    My FH is interested in the plans I've made and wants to know what is going on for the most part. He has made suggestions and likes having some input.
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  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
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    Most part hands off since all he could do was whine or complain about the costs and things being ordered for the day. At the end, it was hands on for the wedding bands and Officiant. Inputs were given on backdrop, favour choice and cake (final decision made by me). It worked out for the best part knowing we were under budget.

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  • Michelle
    Frequent user August 2019 Alberta
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    Pretty hands off. He's very busy with his work, and I've had a slow season in my job. That coupled with being very Type A, I've done nearly everything myself. He's voiced his opinion occasionally (only with a couple things he felt a bit more strongly about, or when I've asked) and has offered to help where he can (though there has been very little I can leave to him in all honesty).

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  • Alix
    Expert June 2021 Saskatchewan
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    Hands off for the most part. I've planned most of it but he does give his opinion when I ask what he thinks and he'll go to the venue to help plan the decorating and goes to the photographers studio to make payments.
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  • A
    Super September 2020 Ontario
    Amelia ·
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    Hands off. He went to meetings that I scheduled and gives his opinion (which is usually just him telling me what he thinks I want to hear) if I ask but I’m always the one bringing it up. I’m tasking him with building an arch and cutting some wood for table numbers for later so he’s involved in a way that he actually enjoys.
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  • Kelsie
    Master July 2021 Ontario
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    Hands off. He usually just agrees with what I want.

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  • Sarah
    Expert July 2021 Ontario
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    He’s hands on in that he’s making the arbour and slicing up some big wood logs for decor lol but I’m essentially doing all the planning
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  • Valérie
    VIP September 2019 Quebec
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    I'd say 80/20 hands off.

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  • S
    Expert September 2020 Quebec
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    My FH is kinda hands on. He agrees if he likes it or disagree if he don't, that's about it. I call all the vendors, do emails, set up interviews also the decor. We are paying for our own wedding and splitting the cost 50/50. So I like out setup
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  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    Pretty hands off, but if I ask him for help he is all for it. He was in charge of the cake and what the guys were wearing! Which is a super big help

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  • Lisa
    Expert August 2019 Alberta
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    Mine is pretty hands on, as we discuss and decide on everything together, but I'm the one that communicates (with vendors, etc.) anything that we decide on.

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  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
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    He's hands off for the most part but if I ask for help he is more than happy to! Only part that he really doesn't have anything to do with is the decor - as long as the colours are teal, plum and copper he could care less how it's executed.

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  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
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    My fh is hands off as well lol he will help when need or ask but he is mainly hands off

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  • Allison
    Master October 2019 Ontario
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    He's pretty hands off, but very hands on when it comes to house renos, where I'm more hands off.

    If I need an opinion, he will usually tell me whatever I want will work for him lol

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