Is anyone’s fh overwhelmed

We the brides (the one in control) know what we hae to do in order to get these places booked. Our husbands feel its not as important since i went through the same thing with my man. Quick tempered he is at times.

View quoted message

It is a nice balance to have.

View quoted message EXACTLYYYYYY! Like we already have the venue church priest(our church is French catholic and we wanted an Italian priest) and photographer. We’re booking our DJ on Tuesday and after that we can take it slow. It’s also just planning for myself. My hair and makeup and dress, accessories.

I feel like he’s realizing that we get to relax a little now and it’s good because at least now he can focus on his finals

View quoted message I think that maybe a little bit of the issue as well. He’s also always such a last minute person that now to be seeing how quickly we need to book might be freaking him out :b

Wow! This was us last week! EVERYTHING YOU MENTIONED! I went through haha!
We had to change our dates too to match the church or the venue! And if we didn’t go check the venue the day we did, we would have lost our date. They book so fast, and that’s what I told him. If we get this booked and outta the way, we can slow down on everything else. It needs to be done or you guys will lose out on your venue.
You just need to resure him that if you get this done you can just slow down on everything else. The venue and church are the biggest thing, but most important bc they book so fast, and they need to understand that or you will lose the venue of your dreams
don’t worry, about them, they will slowly understand.

View quoted message That’s basically me too! He’s letting me do the planning but we both give any decision the final thumbs up lol

Call me crazy but I think that's adorable he's overwhelmed by the wedding!! He's obviously taking it seriously and maybe feeling a bit disorganized? Everything is easier when we do it together! Continue to do it with him and involve him in everything and be there in the moments when he is just overwhelmed. Cuz we all go there sometimes.

Yeah my fiancé was kind of ish but then he kind of just had me plan it all! I asked him constantly his opinion though so he was definitely included but I decided to just take the lead! Sometimes that's all you do! Depends on the person and how they feel about things though.

Mine wasn't but I just told him that I would do everything but run every decision past him and I think that that made him feel better. I wanted more pressure to be on me.

View quoted message Perhaps you should tell him that and it may help relax him a little. this is stressful for him tooyou guys just need to work together to support each other

View quoted message Well that’s it. Seeing how easily the vendors we want are booking up quickly, it’s stressing ME out. Once the really important areas are taken care of, I will definitely back off and focus on my wedding planning (dress, etc)

View quoted message We have date nights and we don’t really talk about the wedding unless he brings it up. I try to limit the days we talk about it because we really get to see each other only on Tuesday nights which have become our wedding planning day. Saturday’s are usually our relax day.

Mine got super overwhelmed about money- the planning he lets me stress out about mostly (basically our relationship since im the social butterfly). Honestly its just supporting one wnother- i went hard at first and then sort of stopped planning so hard once things were booked hes doing his best and so are you! Glad you got your spot!

There is not much you can do other than support him and maybe get his mind off of it for a little while. I would suggest an evening where you guys go out on a date and do not talk about wedding planning at all. We took breaks like this because otherwise I would have gone insane!

That’s exactly what I’m doing. Researching and getting ideas and presenting him with the information so that we can make the decision together. I understand and I didn’t want to start planning right away. Maybe beginning of next year but my cousin is a wedding planner and she’s right when she says to plan as soon as you know what you want. The vendors we want are popular and book up very fast.
For sure once we get our next 2 Big vendors we’re going to take it slow on the planning and just focus on enjoying our engagement

My FH feels overwhelmed at times too, we just talk it out and take breaks from planning. I don't think he thought I was going to be so intense about the planning process that it stressed him out at first.

I included him in the decision making processes but booked things myself, unless I gave him a specific task to do or book.

It made it easier for the both of us and less stressful.