Skip to main content
Curious February 2020 Ontario

Is 4 months too short?

Laura, on June 9, 2019 at 23:41 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 13
My fiance and I want to get married in October, and I don't want to wait 16 months, but will 4 months planning work?
Worried about not having given enough notice to guests.
(I don't want to wait until next year because my clock is ticking)


Latest activity by Bianca, on June 10, 2019 at 19:08
  • Bianca
    Master August 2019 Ontario
    Bianca ·
    • Dispute

    Like most others have already said, it's doable but you will might not get all the vendors you want or the venue of your dreams. However, if you're comfortable planning your wedding in four months then by all means go ahead and get started with the planning!

    • Reply
  • Hélène
    Devoted September 2019 Alberta
    Hélène ·
    • Dispute

    Absolutely do-able! My friend coordinated hers in 6 weeks. There are things you may have to change your vision for, but you can definitely make it happen.

    In Calgary there's a company that does pop-up weddings. Maybe there's on in your area that could help you out?

    • Reply
  • S
    Newbie June 2019 Ontario
    Sally ·
    • Dispute

    My first wedding took 6 weeks and was a blast. My second one was decided on this past weekend and will take place in two weeks. Sixty guests. At the lake. All except two can come. I say go for it. Babies are far more important! Good luck.

    • Reply
  • Holly
    VIP June 2019 Ontario
    Holly ·
    • Dispute
    Personally I think that's way too short. You would have to send invites out ASAP. We sent our invitations at the 4 months mark. We planned our wedding in just under 2 years and I couldn't never imagine doing it in less. The problem with this timeframe is you have next to no time to book vendors as majority book a year plus in advance. It's not impossible but you will likely not have the wedding you are dreaming of. A short timeframe means lots of cuts and compromise with not getting exactly what you want.
    Like I said, not impossible but you may not get what you want.
    • Reply
  • A
    Frequent user June 2019 Ontario
    Allyson ·
    • Dispute
    We got engaged at Christmas and didn't really start planning until Feb/March with a target date of June 22. It was really important for that my minister perform our service and he was leaving our church. The further out our date was he couldn't guarantee he'd still be at our church.

    I haven't found it to bad. I bought my wedding dress used (saved $$ too! ), my MOH dress we didn't even shop until May as I recall and it was delivered no problem.
    Some of our time stress is more around having a unique venue, which allowed us to book it on a short time frame but we have to supply catering dishes, wine glasses.
    We're finding it helpful to have the shorter time because I'm being reasonably practical by not adding more and more diy and other things. It's so tempting when you've got more time. Smiley winking
    We managed to get our invites out in good time, even slightly ahead. Again saved us having to do save the dates. I think we had a pretty typical response from our guests when it came to RSVP's. We invited 130.

    I'm super glad we're getting married and not waiting longer. It's just meant being on top of lists and being super organized. Tip-pick your colours and vision early and stick with it.
    Hope this helps.
    • Reply
  • Kate
    Newbie October 2019 Ontario
    Kate ·
    • Dispute

    You can absolutely do it! I was so excited for the weding process that i got all of my stuff done in the first 3 months of being engaged and now its just a waiting game until the day. I do agree with the above comments about vendors - you will need to be flexible or have a lot of DIY because vendors will be booked. You got this! Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • Casey
    Master October 2019 Ontario
    Casey ·
    • Dispute

    It is for sure possible. You may have to get creative with locations, and vendors because many of the popular ones will be booked. But work on a venue to start and then get your invites out ASAP. The rest will fall into place!

    • Reply
  • Vinod
    Featured August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
    • Dispute

    It can be done and the sooner you get all your vendors booked. Invitations can go out right away to guests giving ample time to reply back.

    Another solution that is possible to look into is eloping to save on the officiant since city hall will be charging the same and just family. Reception can follow after with friends and you guest list to let them celebrate your new life together. Alocate the cost of the photographer and videographer for shorter time and 1 event.

    • Reply
  • Jenn
    Frequent user April 2019 Saskatchewan
    Jenn ·
    • Dispute
    You can do it! We did it in five, but we planned a more simple day with a small guest list. I bet you could plan a more traditional wedding, but it may require taking a few days off to crush out the details. It will be beautiful! Good luck!
    • Reply
  • Tori
    Top October 2019 Manitoba
    Tori ·
    • Dispute

    Totally possible - but like the others have said, there will most likely have to be compromises.

    Venue, photographers, DJ's, etc. will have been picked through already (heck, I booked my venue in February 2018 and by July 2018 they were booking into 2020!).

    List of what to do:

    Find venue. Find JOP/church/Officiant and lock them in as well. Once you have those two things set up - MAIL THE INVITES!

    Then go to the other things like food & booze (if not included with the venue), DJ, photographer, videographer, dress (most likely have to buy off the rack or buy used), suit, cake, favours, decor, etc.

    If you are just worried about notice for the guests - don't! 4 months is a usual time for wedding invites to go out when the guests are in the same city. For those who are out of town, they may not be able to swing it - but I'm sure they will try really hard!

    • Reply
  • Kathy
    Frequent user August 2019 Ontario
    Kathy ·
    • Dispute
    I think you can depending on what you want. Some venues are already booked way in advance so depends on your venue and vendors. Mine is being done in 8 months but that’s because I don’t require a lot!
    • Reply
  • Becky
    VIP September 2019 Ontario
    Becky ·
    • Dispute

    I have seen people pull it off! Book your venue and go from there- I would take few days off from work and book everyone/meet up with vendors and get it all done!

    • Reply
  • Kelsie
    Master July 2021 Ontario
    Kelsie ·
    • Dispute
    I think it is doable, you just may not get all the vendors you want. If you’re ok with that then you’ll be good.

    if you send your invitations out relatively shortly, I think it gives guests enough notice as well.
    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

ReCaptcha Verification failed. Please try again.


WeddingWire Article Topics