Inviting the Office

Inviting the staff from the office may seem excessive for your guest list. Your husband is only inviting his boss and SO and you can do the same along with the family friend. If you choose, make it a time with the office staff to have dinner and you two can be there to celebrate with them so that they don't feel bad. Its one thing for a nice dinner out with the staff than going over your guest count.

We both did invite co workers and 1 of 3 did attend from m work and most of his staff did attend though one did ask for a plus 1 and said she was coming alone. It seemed some didn't respect the thoughts of the budget and guest count of us being the couple and the nerve to ask to bring someone. One got the nerve to bring his mother and boyfriend which stated 1 for him only and had to aske where his mother could sit before the reception entrance.

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Glad to provide some extra support

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Hi Stacey,

That helped put this situation into a new perspective, as much as all the other comments, so thank you for your input The more I think about it and the more I get worked up over it, makes me realize that I shouldn't get worked up over something so miniscule. Thank you again for your insight, it helped a lot

I started my current job July 2020. There's 12 people in my office and 4 of them that we talk about life stuff. No one from my office is invited because A. We don't socialize outside of work and B. as much I as enjoy our work relationships I honestly wouldn't make the effort to have them in my life if I (or they) were to move jobs. My SO has been at his job for 9 years and isn't inviting any co-workers.

Most people you work with you get along with because you spend so much time together, but if you met them outside of work (without previously knowing them) you most likely wouldn't try to connect with them.

Don't feel bad about not inviting people, you don't owe anyone in your life an invitation.
Of my dad's 6 siblings(and their families) only 1 of them is invited, they aren't entitled to an invite because we're related.

If you don't socialize with these people outside of work (and I mean beyond "let's grab a drink after work") then there's no expectation to be invited to a wedding of a co-worker. My wife got close to a few people at work due to a project they were working on but she didn't invite them even though they knew she was getting married. They didn't expect an invite. In my experience, very rarely do co-workers feel hurt by these things.

I have a friend that I met at work 3 months before her wedding. Her invites were out and she and husband decided not to add work friends to their day. That being said I did ask her if it would be ok to come to the ceremony (I knew we'd be friends for a long time) it was precovid and she said I could. I do not feel bad about not being at her reception at all and 10 years later she is one of my best friends. They will understand if you can't invite everyone. No one's feelings will be hurt. If someone is meant to be in your life they will be. You can not send them a save the date and decide later before invites go out that you want to invite them.... you can invite them closer to the event if you feel that someone has become someone you'd really want there.

View quoted message That’s smart!! I didn’t even think of doing something like that! I might talk to my fiancée and see if we can consider doing that. Thank you Stephanie ❤️

View quoted message That makes sense! One of my coworkers has even given me tons of vases for my decor pieces so they’re all happy for me otherwise

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No problem hun! I hope everything works out

View quoted message Thank you Amanda ❤️❤️ That helps ease some anxiety I have over this

I've been with my one job for 6 years and my other job for 11 years and I'm not inviting anyone that I work with. My fiance and I agreed only on close family and close friends and no co workers. You can't invite everyone that you know! Just remember that and most people will understand

I’m in the same boat as you!! I started a new job in May but didn’t know anyone at the office personally beforehand. My department is small but some people are still working remotely so I’ve never actually met them in person! I would like to invite my supervisor and the other woman I work closely with but I’d feel guilty not inviting the rest of our team …


I think my plan is to add them to my “C list”. My fiancé and I both have an A list of people that are required to be invited, a B list where we’d really appreciate them being invited and the C list will get invites when we start getting “no’s” back!

View quoted message I get that. I work at a school so it's different but those that were excited for me wanted to talk about it even if they weren't invited! Nice to see that kind of support too.

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You make some incredibly valid points. My office is fairly small and we’re all super close, despite age gaps, but you’re right in the fact that they should understand I can’t have everyone and my family and friends are priority. I know they would understand, it’s just a matter of my feeling guilty or uncomfortable talking about it around them but that’s something I need to work on personally

I have been at my current job for almost 10 years and I am only inviting 1 person from work. We were friends for a couple years before she started working where I work. I'm also getting married at the busiest time of year for work so I can't invite too many.

View quoted message You’re welcome Brooke!
Also, I meant you shouldn’t* feel any type of way. I have been at my job for 3 years and no one of them have been invited. I invited the coworker (also sorority founder/sister) to my bridal shower instead. Also, I invited anyone that is not able to attend the wedding to the bridal shower. It worked out nicely that way!

A wedding is one of those very understandable things - you can't invite everyone. If they don't understand that, that's their problem honestly. On the other side, if I got invited to a wedding of a colleagues who I'm not actually friends with, I'd assume it was just for more gifts. I'd then be in the awkward position of wanting to decline and seeing them every day. That being said, I don't know how big your office is but again, you can't invite everyone and adults should understand.

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Hey Tunisha,

Thank you for the input it definitely helped me think and consider things in a different light.

Hello Brooke,
I personally think that you shouldn’t be worried about your other office buddies. You can definitely invite your family bosses and their plus ones. But no need to worry about the others not being invite. You are fairly new there and should feel any type of way.

I did not even get to invite the person that submitted my resume for me to the wedding. Another reason was because she is not vaccinated. I have mainly family, family friends and very close friends.