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Newbie August 2024 Ontario

International friends and their kids

Jessica, on August 6, 2022 at 17:25 Posted in Plan a wedding 0 5
Hi everyone,

My fiancé and I are getting married in 2024, so still a ways off. About half of the guests that we’re going to invite are not from Canada (mostly from the UK) since that’s where my fiancé’s from.
A lot of his friends either have kids (between ages of 1-13 years old) or they will plan to have kids in the next two years. I know that for some of them, they probably can’t come to our wedding without bringing their kids. I don’t REALLY mind…BUT…a lot of my friends have kids (some of whom I’m NOT a huge fan of/I don’t really know them well since we haven’t hung out much since COVID). So my question is, would it be “rude” of me to not permit my Canadian friends to being their kids if I’m permitting international friends to bring their kids. We’re trying to keep our wedding under 75 people and with kids factored in for both Canadian and international friends, I might be looking at 20 kids at my wedding ranging from babies to 15 years old….which I hadn’t really planned on and don’t really want. I don’t want to be unreasonable, but also want to not have 20 additional kiddos that I don’t really know/aren’t close with to be there.


Latest activity by Vinod, on August 22, 2022 at 05:11
  • Vinod
    Top August 2017 Ontario
    Vinod ·
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    I do see what your wanting and how you're trying to approach this dilemma:

    1. You do invite the FHs families international as full since they will have to make it a family trip with their kids and have your Canadian families limited though only in the city can find baby sitters for the day while the ones driving or flying in would have to consider their kids to bring.

    2. You go one way or the other as to inviting everyone as full families so you don't hear any back lash about kids from some invited and not their own. Adults only event should be noted for reception if you feel no kids apart from the main family should be invited only and arrange a babysitter or provide the information for those that will want one for their kids if chosen to go this route.

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    KELLY ·
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    We aren't planning on having children at our wedding either, I would say to the Canadian guests (if local) no children to give them a well needed night out. They should understand why guests from out of the country cannot leave their children at home.

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    Carine ·
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    It's not unreasonable unless your Canadian friend that are invited are also out of town.

    If they live in town it's easier for them to get a babysitter than if they were from out of town. It is your wedding your rules.

    We are not having kids at our wedding except for our 1 groomsman who lives out of town and is also bringing his wife but since they are out of town with a by then 1 year old it's hard to say no to them.

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  • Rachay
    Curious August 2022 Ontario
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    That's definitely a tough one. My fiancé brother has like 6 kids on his own and we just decided that we were not allowing kids at all. We are only inviting 60 guests and that would make numbers impossible. To be honest, this is your big day and I feel like people might understand. You can simply explain the situation that you can only invite a limited number of guests due to space and budget. Those guests would just have to see if they can work out a caregiver plan (I.e. staying with a grandma back home) or if they will not be able to attend. We have a few people from overseas that could not attend or friends that we couldn't invite due to numbers. So we will be doing a zoom video so they can still be a part of the ceremony
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  • Kelsey
    Frequent user August 2022 Alberta
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    We didn't have as many children to work around as you did, but for the people in the same scenario as you're describing, we hired a babysitter to watch the kids so the parents could have a fun night. Our wedding will be no kids but we wanted to assist our out of province/country families. Not sure on the logistics with as many kids as you're talking about, but maybe something to look into? And just offer it to your out of town people and otherwise say no kids.
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