i hate my fiance's groomsman

View quoted message Well your fiance needs to remind him as many times as it takes! And as far as your wedding day it's about you and your fiance. This guy should not even be a thought! Don't let him steal your power! Know that your fiance is with you for a reason!!!! It will be about YOU and HIM! And if that little weasel of a man friend of his doesn't like it, well you guys show him the damn door!

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My thoughts exactly! My fiancée did tell him off because his friend said " why does she look so mad I hope I didn't cause any issues" My fiancée just told him " what you said is like slapping her in the face because she does a lot for me physically , emotionally and sexually that you don't know about and you basically just told her it isn't good enough" His friend understood , I am still angry because after that talk he talked about my fiancée ex girlfriends and asked to check out waitress. I think he is still holding on to 20 some old matt instead of 30 year old matt if that makes sense? just nervous because I haven't seen him since and our wedding is less than a year away and he lives out of town.

#1 this guy is a douche! Sorry for the language! But that's infuriating!! I remember a therapist tell me once DON'T take relationship advice from someone who isn't in one!!!!! This guy is probably a cheater himself and tries to drag others down with him. Also your fiancee should be telling him to stop, that he respects you and that he's not into it! He should be putting his friend in his place! Don't put your energy on his negativity and let it drag you down or your plans!

Thanks for the support! I am going to play it by ear, I do not want him in the wedding party at all however, it is Matt's wedding too and feel we should respect each other's wedding party choices unless his friend goes over the line again. I am just trying to figure out who I should pair him up with because they will have to walk down the aisle , dance together etc. unless there is a way for him to walk down the aisle without a bridesmaid making it look weird?

By the way Alexa, I checked out your profile . You dress is beautiful!!!!!!!!!! I love the blush colour . I have a degree in psychology! hope you're enjoying the program: Great program

I don't think he should be part of the wedding party. It would suck to see his face everytime you look to the left on your wedding day causing you anxiety or reminding you of the crap he's said

Wow!! He doesn't sound very supportive or understanding or caring at all. I think it was wise to make him only a groomsmen but can you trust him? Can you trust that he will stay on his meds for the wedding? It would be unfortunate if he were to mess things up. I understand that Matt and he have been friends for a long time but that doesn't mean he has to be involved in the wedding. I would seriously consider asking him to not be in the wedding but the flip side is I wouldn't like to see the reaction and/or consequences of that decision once you make him aware of it. I think the best you can do right now is just ride out the wave. I would tell Matt that you have no interest in being around or dealing with this person up to and during the wedding. Hopefully he understands and will mitigate the craziness!

Jeeeze he sounds like a real tool!! Hopefully he shapes up.

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Oh my lanta... he sounds like a really interesting guy. Good luck with everything!

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I totally agree!!!! However, he has been friends with this guy for 15 years and two weeks after everything went own he had a mental breakdown(schizophrenic who was not taking his meds) where he tried to rob a bank and hit an old lady. I haven't seen him in person since the incident matt has seen him once. We choose to say that matt's son is the best man(9 years old) but other groomsmen who is married will plan bachelor party and be man guy to organize everything . I talked to the other groomsman who will be the one in charge of keeping everyone in line he understands and knows matt is not into the traditional strip club bachelor stuff, plus he himself didn't have any female company for his bachelor party when he got married. the fourth groomsmen is my very close guy friend ( I lived with him for a few months, he is close friends with both matt and I) and I know he will have my back to stand up to this guy.

WOWWWWW!!!! If I were you and Matthew I would have kicked this guy to the curb, like completely out of your wedding party and out of your lives! He clearly does not support your marriage or your relationship at all and has absolutely no respect for you two as a couple. He needs to go! He will definitely push boundaries to piss you off and ensure that he does the things you don't agree with for his bachelor party because he doesn't give two hoots about you. Girl, put your foot down and tell this guy where to go.

The good thing here is that since he's no longer best man, he's not in charge of planning.

Whoever is the best man should know very expressly what Matt's wishes are for his party since it is in fact his. I would make sure they know it's what HE wants as the groom. If the other guy has any inappropriate entertainment show up as a surprise, have a back up ready so the rest of the guys can just leave and party the way they want elsewhere.

From the sound of it, your fiance should have a conversation with this guy about respecting your relationship and the boundaries you've established for it since they obviously work for you two.