i feel kind if upset about my guestlist

I'm the same, after I divorced, I became a bit more reclusive, and most of my friends live in a different city, so my social interactions are more over the phone than anything else, I have like two friends in the area, on my side I'm inviting about 16 family members and 4 friends and their partners, my fiancé has over 50 people on his side, so even though it will be a little lopsided, I'm so grateful for my friends that will be taking time off, and spending a lot of money in flights, hotels and visas to be with me, I really couldn't be happier. Quality over quantity.

I think a lot of this is getting older, and its harder and harder to make time for friends. I find as I get older, I really have to select who I want to invest my time and energy in. I've always had a small set of friends as I moved a lot, and had a tougher time maintaining meaningful relationships.

I did have four bridesmaids, and one of them was a girlfriend that I met through my fiance (his buddies partner) who I've become really good friends with. Other than those girls, I only had one other friend and his girlfriend that I invited to the wedding.

It's tough, especially when your partner has a large friends group. My guy has held onto the same friends since he was 5 years old! I've become friendly with a lot of them, but at the end of the day he had like 25 friends there easily.

Don't worry about it though - that day, you'll be SO busy you won't even notice.

In the last few years, I have drifted apart with some friends as well. I feel quite upset about it as well but then I realize that friendship is two ways; it takes two people to keep it going. No matter how hard I try to maintain the friendship, if they are not going to put in the effort, nothing is going to happen. And if they are really your good friends, even if you don't talk for a few years, you guys will still have a great time when you do meet up again. I just met up with two friends that I haven't seen in 10 years and we had a great time catching up. I had them on Facebook and I just decided to reach out one day. Maybe that's something you can try!

I can fully related to this. I was in a controlling relationship for 12 years (really bad for the last 2), and lost a lot of my close high school friends. I am also an introvert and find it hard to connect with people (because, small talk damn near kills me haha), but I still have some really amazing friends who stuck by me through the hardest times in my life. And my 2 sisters are like best friends as well. I've been fortunate to bond really well with a lot of people at work and my FH's friends wives and gf's. I think in the end it's about who has always been there for you and who is important to you in your life right now. On the day you won't be worrying about who's not there, you'll be appreciating all the wonderful people who love and care about you that are there to support your special day

I somewhat can relate to that - I used to have at least 10 girls in my inner circle that I would talk to all the time and after high school we all drifted apart. I'm 21 now so it's been a few years but when I went to reach out to a couple of those girls I noticed how different we are now so I don't even want them at my wedding. Not to say that that is the case for all of them though because one of them that I reached out to it still a great friend and although we haven't talked in about 2 years I will still be sending her and invitation to the wedding as she was a child hood friend.

Think of it this way; if you would be hurt by them if they weren't to invite you to their weddings then you should invite them. Otherwise, friends come and go. From where I stand I think our wedding guest list is divided where he will have roughly 85 people from my side and 165 from his side... No biggie, they will be/ are my family too now