I don’t want to plan a wedding! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Honestly concider even a potluck. Everyone brings something. A wedding doesnt have to be a fancy formal event. My stepmom got married in her parents backyard in a purple sundress she had found in her closet. We all ate chilli and pulled pork and it was lovely. No bells and whistles. Just love. Heck even at my wedding we are doing build your own tacos! Who cares what people think. Its about celebrating you two becoming one and that should be the main focus. If you want to get married in blue jeans and eat pizza you go right ahead. People should be focused on celebrating such a special moment not about what they are eatting or what anyone is wearing.

At the end of the day, the wedding is about you and your spouse - what you want and how you want to start off your marriage. We have been lucky... so far... but there are people that we aren't inviting and things we are doing because we want to do them. It is our day and that's how it should be. In my opinion that is

If i were you i would do a destiation wedding and whoever can come will. its WAY cheaper my cousin spent around 5k for everything including professional photos, head table decor, cake, centrepeices etc. however if you do a wedding here you can hire a wedding planner and they can pick out the table decor and linens for you if you dont care. you can just tell them a style you like or what youre looking for and they can do it for you!

It depends on how your budget is like, I would recommend meeting with a few wedding planners and hiring one. They do really help a lot esp for brides who doesn't enjoy the planning part

Congrats on the engagement and welcome to the ww community!

I for sure get where your brother is coming from - my DH's cousin got engaged after us but married like 2 months before us.... it would have been more annoying if it wasn't for the fact that they have been together for YEARS and we have been together for like almost 3 and we are already married now

With that being said - they can suck it up....

I say to go the elope route or just plan what you want because either way you will get complaints but at least it will be what you want! As long as you and your FH is on the same page then you've got nothing to worry about.

I'm not having the same issues, but I've been getting the same response: It's your wedding - do what you want! I know a large wedding is a lot to think about (we are also having ~250) but it's much easier if you just take it step by step!

I would suggest that either

a) You get a wedding planner. They can be expensive, but it will take all the weight of planning and designing and everything else off of your plate.

b) You look at Pintrest and pick a few photos that are exactly what you want - then you can go to a decor company and just say "I want it to look like this" and they will pull all of the chairs and linens and everything for you!

c) Elope!! There's nothing wrong with a destination (or local) elopement followed by a party. Lots of people do informal BBQs with BYOB - it's totally your day! You don't have to serve dinner either - lots of people just have appetizers and drinks!

It sounds like you would be happy eloping/having a courthouse wedding and then a I do BBQ/party afterwards, like you described.

You mentioned you were never the kind of girl who planned her wedding so I think elopement would be good for you, and you sound like you wouldn't have regrets doing it that way.

Genevieve mentioned that family will push back no matter what you do: from eloping to the courthouse to getting married at the Ritz. You won't be able to please everyone but as long as you and your FH are happy with your decisions and get married, that's all that matters

You could hire a wedding planner who would then take control of the planning aspects you aren't crazy on doing, but it sounds like elopement is more your style.

I think you should do what you want and try to let go the opinions of others (I know - it can be hard sometimes). Eloping sounds like a fun option with the informal party and announcement after you get back. It sounds as if the actual marriage is the focus for both of you, so why turn it into something to please other people? The beauty of weddings today is that you really can have the wedding that YOU want - tradition doesn't have to play into it unless you want to...

You can also hire wedding planners who will plan as much or as little as you want them to! It's a little more you have to shell out for it, but if you have the funds for it and the thought of picking and planning makes your skin crawl, you can work with someone who will plan it for you!!

You can also have a small wedding and a large celebration. So you could still go on that getaway and get married at a destination wedding, anyone who wants to come can come, and everyone leftover can RSVP to the backyard BBQ to celebrate a week or two later when you're back and tan and married!