I am Engaged... without a Ring!

We were engaged over a year, with our wedding only 5 weeks away when my soon to be husband gave me an engagement ring. While I do love my ring, it's not needed to validate our commitment and plans for our future together

Hello Honeylie,

Welcome to the same boat.

My fiance and I have been together for more than 13yrs and yes... once upon a time, I did propose and did provide a ring but she lost the ring shortly after that. (and to think she was hoping for me to get another one lol). Well... at the end of the day, all that matters, is the real meaning and value to getting married itself. Having your friends and family present on that special day which both of you say I do and celebrate together with those that matters is all you really need. Anything else is icing on the cake.

We both are more focused on the symbol and value of that special day and the importance of taking the next step in our relationship and this is all that matters.

Jean Guy

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Amazing! Congrats Melissa!

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That is very true. Thank you so much!

Glad to hear I'm not alone! Starting the wedding planning and still dont have an engagement ring. Only a couple people know we are planning this so far...

Hello Honeylie, I am in the exact same boat I have been with this man for 9years almost 10years. I as well am engaged with no ring its no big deal. Some may think it is but its the love that counts between you and your loved one. And by the way congratulations on your engagement

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I love the rings from Brilliant Earth! i have looked at a couple.

Yes, from movies to tv shows, it seems as though it needs to be this grand gesture or it doesn't count!!

Thank you Denyse! xoxoxox

We're in the same boat.. it was mutually agreed on and we already have half the wedding planned and still no engagement... well.. no one knows yet either. One of these days we will go get me a ring, and wedding bands, then he'll (try) to surprise me and propose. Might be doing things in a different order, but it still works

My FH's and i have been together for along time and have a 21 year old son and we have always talked about getting married but life happens.. last September we decided to plan our wedding.. There was no getting down on one knee with a ring instead we decided to pick my engagement ring out together from brilliant earth and instead of a diamond I fell in love with a moissanite gem way less expensive but just as beautiful.. My point is a engagement ring does not signify the love you have for one another.. It"s put in our heads from a young age that an engagement ring signify love just like a diamond is a girls best friend but honestly its an industry using love to make a profit.. With that congrats to you I wish you beautiful wedding and happy ever after..

That's so refreshing to hear! love this, thanks for sharing

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Amazing!!! i love it ! we are waiting to tell his family once i have some sort of band as well because they are a stickler when it comes to this type of thing.

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That response has crossed my mind a time or two for sure!

We were the same and thinking of the cost of a ring he would spend was going to be as the same for the day of. Result was mutual and waited until we got our bands and his ring that didn't fit him, fit me and that is how we decided to call it the engagement ring.

No proposal for us too.

View quoted message Oh my gosh !! I completely understand the frustration !!! I too would be mad if someone didn't congratulate me and instead simply said "SHOW ME THE RING". I would reply "Ok so that's one less person to invite!!" 😜 Thank you xxx

Amazing! Love this.

I completely understand the love of the ring, and that girls ALWAYS want to know about the ring blah blah. But I was not prepared for the barrage of questions I would get about my ring. To the point I was actually getting mad. A cousin of mine heard through the family grapevine (news spreads like a wildfire once my grandma knows, I didn't get a chance to call everyone before she did) about the engagement and all I got from her was "Lets see the ring" as a text, not even Congratulations! It upset me ALOT. I just don't get it, I would way rather hear about the proposal then the ring.

It was also super awkward for us because there was a snafu with the ring FH did propose to me with so we returned the ring the next day and had to wait 2 weeks for the actual ring I ended up with. But I wanted to tell everyone that we were engaged because I was so happy (obviously) so for two weeks it was non stop, "We are engaged" *person looks at my hand* "Oh yeah...the ring is getting sized" "Didn't you take a picture" "No...soo anyway WE ARE ENGAGED". It was exhausting.

Anyway, good for you! Congratulations!

View quoted message You go girl !!!! I love hearing stories of women proposing to their FH 💛 thank you and congratulations to you !

View quoted message That's so sweet! I'm glad he still had the courage to propose despite not having a ring. The ring is simply an afterthought ! xx congrats

Well it wasn't a money thing and it wasn't a mutual agreement to get married - I actually proposed to my FH! lol I got us bracelets from Claire's as I knew that even if I got him a ring he wouldn't wear it - that's for the girls He insists he won't wear one until we are married but made sure to set up an appointment for me to get a custom made engagement ring We will be going to the same person for the wedding bands.

Congrats on the engagement and welcome to the WW community!

I love this! My Fiancee asked me if I marry him and he wished he had a ring that night. He gave me a ring a week after though but it's not that, even if he didn't I will still gonna marry him in a heart beat!

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View quoted message That's amazing !! Yes we are actually talking about getting a cheap ring as well just to avoid the "why no ring" discussion with friends and family !

Congrats to you both! At the end of the day, it’s about you guys and what you both want. I think this is amazing. Exciting time!

Wonderful! Congratulations!

Congrats!!

We did the exact same thing!! We mutually decided to get engaged. We did decide to go shopping for a "look I'm engaged ring". It was -super- cheap and more of a formality for the family. When we got home my fiancé then rolled his eyes and said "I guess I need to get on my knee eh?".

Big proposals aren't for everyone and I truly believe in doing what you need to do. Even our wedding is super untraditional and informal because that's our relationship and us.

Congrats! Happy planning!

This is how my parents did it. They started talking about “if we get married” and that changed to “when we get married”.
I got the ring but not a big proposal. Now, I don’t even wear my engagement ring or my wedding band! I don’t wear them to work and rarely remember to put them on at home!
It’s not the most important thing but it is something people still ask about

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Congratulations! So exciting!! Happy planning

View quoted message Haha yes ! We told the first people about our engagement and we got that question right away! "Show us the ring!!" ...uh nope no ring 😂
Also cannot wait for people to ask "tell us your engagement story!" ...we had a discussion about it, that's it! 😋

Coming from someone who’s in the same boat, prepare for people to stare at your hand and be confused when there’s no ring. Happens 100% of the time!