We have a strict limit of 75 people maximum for our wedding due to our budget. Because of this we're limiting who are and aren't inviting- including the minimum age for the guests.
Now Randee has two nephews and a niece, the youngest of which will be nine years old when we have the wedding. While we aren't opposed to inviting immediate family children (nieces and nephews), I'm concerned because my cousins have lots of children and most will be only three years old when the wedding takes place.
I've tried to bring this up with my mother for her opinion since she's on good terms with both sides of the family, but she said "it's [my] own fault for marrying late in life while [my cousins] went ahead and got theirs started".
Am I being insensitive to my family for not wanting them to bring their kids who have no idea who I even am? At the same time, how do we excuse this while approving kids of friends who are like nieces and nephews to us?