How to have fun planning?

I personally had a great feeling planning out the wedding. The only stress that came out of it was my husband to be then made such a big fuss about the financial aspect when he didn't know how to deal or bargain with the vendors. It was a close call to cancelling the wedding with his fights, yet he learned to just accept what's going to happen and happy at the end of it. I did know to have his inputs about the bigger decision though the cake battle was my winning at the end. The portions came out perfect along with the other dessert leaving no waste. I was happy to go through the process and knowing everything was being organized with some help of my parents.

View quoted message This is EXACTLY how I felt planning. Would have been happy eloping or having a very small wedding (which is what we did due to COVID but we’ll have a reception one day too) but my husband has always wanted a big wedding. Thought we could do a budget wedding for like $10k - after doing some research found out that was actually impossible in our city unless we cut major vendors or and we stretched to $20k. Which I know is still low for a wedding but it makes me feel sick to spend that much money on what I consider to be a party.

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You are absolutely right - Having the financial funds or not can make things less stressful/more stressful. No matter the budget, no matter the venue, as long as you have the love of your life by your side and the people that matter - that's what counts!

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Thank you, Kim. I feel like although I am an easy going person I want things done NOW. LOL....Just need to breathe and go with the flow as you said
My FH is more of the wedding dreamer - I am content with a small and intimate wedding. He wants a big wedding. His sister is getting married this year (fingers crossed) and she also wants the big wedding which is totally cool - It's just not for me. I think the pressure of his wishes overwhelms me a bit when I think of wedding costs. We're paying for the wedding ourselves and the money is already saved so that isn't an issue; however, I was very niave in thinking a $30k wedding budget was suffice - it definitely can be but not for the wedding we've discussed lol
LISTS are my jam! SOO helpful!

I'm a very high stress person in general, so planning for me has been a bit of a struggle. However, I have found that having lots of lists going and focusing on one thing at a time has been really helpful.

One of the more fun things for me was putting together our invitations, since we designed them and DIY'd them all.

My advice is to not overthink everything and go with the flow. Yes, there's lots to do, but try to just enjoy the process!

I don't know if I had much fun planning but a few things were satisfying. We got engaged in December 2019 and started planning around January 2020. Given our budget, finding a venue and caterer was fairly stressful because I have very specific taste but we didn't want to spend a ton of money. I also don't know if trying on dresses was necessarily fun, but it was more on the fun side than the stressful side. I sort of expected the rest of the planning to be the fun part. In particular I was excited for finding decor and doing DIYs - then covid came and things obviously changed.

I do think a lot of it comes down to your attitude. I personally wasn't someone who always dreamed of my wedding or even really wanted a wedding. I also didn't want a bridal shower or to do other pre-wedding events that I think most people find fun. I think if you're very into weddings or you've been looking forward to it for a long time you can have more fun with it. Also if money isn't an issue I think it's probably a lot of fun but that's not the case for most people.