How to ask for plus ones?

I asked all my guest, well I mostly knew who has and who doesn't but the few people I wasn't sure about I just asked them when I told them I was getting married.

We have a very small window for guest count so I just wanted to make sure I didn't over invite and then be stuck with having to ask people to de-invite their guests or something equally horrendous.

There is no room for plus ones. we have decided that if we knew about someone then clearly they've been in a long term relationship... if we didn't then its not long enough of a relationship. we don't want strangers at the wedding. we are paying for it ourselves so no randoms. and we are not letting them invite them themselves as when they RSVP via weddingwire they will see only their name.

Hi Naomi! I think it's also helpful if you leave yourself a little bit of guest list wiggle-room! We had 2 or 3 friends who live in a different city reach out about a plus one - we just hadn't realized they were dating someone! It was definitely nice to be able to accommodate those few extras!

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Me too!

We thought 50-75 people would be nice a number, but FH and I are both from large families so we will be inviting over 140.

Glad that all worked out!

I'm NOT offering plus ones. Most of my family and friends don't need it. I've already mentioned to most of my friends that if they DO want to bring someone, they should just ask me, since there won't be an option on the invitation or wedding website. If any of my teenage cousins ask, I'll probably say no, unless its super serious. We're having a huge wedding, so any way to keep the numbers down is really important...

View quoted message Glad to hear it went well for you! I’m always scared that drama will just start unnecessarily, so I’m glad that didn’t happen!

Thanks for the advice. 😊 I texted my two friends and asked if they needed a plus one for the wedding. One did and one didn’t.

The one guest that I thought might need a plus one did, and he even volunteered his partner’s first name. Which was awesome because I didn’t know if they were still a couple, and now I can address the invite to them both.

My girlfriend is still single, so I told her that if she met a special someone before the wedding to let me know so that I can add him to the guest list. 😉 I’m positive that she would be too polite to ask to bring a boyfriend with her if she did meet one, so I’m glad I contacted her and extended the invitation.

Wouldnt hurt to ask! And then you can address the invitation directly to them and their plus one by name.

Anyone who wasnt in a serious relationship (and we had met) when our invites went out did not get a plus one for our wedding.

I'd say just ask them if they have someone special they're involved with who they'll be bringing. It's difficult to look at a relationship and gauge if it's serious based on time (6 months vs 12 months vs engaged vs married), so calling and asking would probably be best.

I automatically invited plus ones for those I wasn't sure about. I even gave my MOH a plus one, even though I knew she wouldn't bring one. Just wanted to be certain she felt that she could bring someone along since I had space for them.

If you are a little more strapped for a guest count, a quick phone call or text would be good. Just keep in mind what Andie said, that they may bring someone anyway even if they aren't a significant other.

I would, although then you might run into the dilemma of them saying they need a plus one even though they don’t have a SO. I guess just be mindful of how you word it

Why not? I might even have to call some to ask if they can attend our wedding because if they can’t I’d like the chance to invite some friends as most of our guests are family.