How do I address invitations? RSVP cards??

I addressed dating couples by names to make it more formal when it came to invitations. Family being invited was indicated by names ex: John, Jane, Jack & Jake Doe (despite the age given of kids). This way it would be clear who would be attending with the RSVP card of the line given # of Guests: _______ This limited family member to write in the blank to increase anyone to bring to the wedding. Email address was provided to avoid extra cost of reply cards. You fill in the blank as it should be when sending out to the household.

We put "and family" for those who's kids were invited

I like the idea of putting everyone's name on where possible. Kids who are old enough to read will be so excited to see their name on the envelope, and it really clarifies who is invited. If they have 5 kids you'll run out of envelope space and could put "Joe, Jane, and family" with the total number on the RSVP card as well.


Most of our friends are living together but not married (scandalous! 😉) so I'll put their full names on the envelopes to make them a bit fancier. Of our married friends about half kept their maiden names and would be offended if we only used their husbands name on the invites.

I wrote mine like "Adult name, adult name & family" mostly because I have 30 cousins and I don't remember all of their childrens names haha.

I wrote out everyones whose invited all their names. So Frank Smith and Sandra Smith and Franklin Smith. that way they know kids are coming.

I would address it as Mr. _____ & Ms. ______ and Family (like Kelsie said), and then for the RSVP's I would put down the number of heads regardless of them needing a physical seat or not. Still has to be put towards the head count for the venue.

*Also, if these aren't premade invitations don't forget that honour is spelt with a u (at least British/Canadian English as compared to Honor for American spelling)

How we addressed our invites was "Mr and Mrs.. " for the couple that is married, "The Smith Family" to address the entire family, and "Ms. Smith and Mr. Johnson" for the couples that aren't married.

As for our RSVP's. I just made a space for them to write their name and then added a line for them to add how many people will be in attendance for the reception. Some people have kids that are coming and some have younger kids and have decided to get a babysitter, so we thought it was easier to go this route.

For addressing, it would be Mr. J. Smith and Ms. J. Doe and Family.


Usually for the saving seats, it’s blank and the guests actually fill in how many are coming. By saying “and family” you’re indicating their child(ren) is invited.
For our RSVP, we have a line at the top for them to fill in their names, followed by a “will attend” or “will not attend” section they can check and then they get their meal choice on the bottom.